dual military, two kids, no family care plan, help?

Here is the reg which is a place to start along with talking to your commands and possibly the Chaplain.

DoD Instruction 1342.19, "Family Care Plans"

Sorry for your loss.

You do not mention what branch of service. The Air Force will not permit one of you to miss a deployment because of a lack of family care plan. Your husband can be involuntarily separated for lack of a family care plan. You cannot, because the children are not yours. What about grandparents, aunts/uncles, etc.? Most people have family members in mind as potential guardians just in case something like this happens. Who did your husband and his ex have in mind?

NOTE to HDH: If I picked up a deployment because somebody couldn't get their family care plan together, I would 1) "explain" the error of their ways to them and 2) file an IG complaint. Staying behind is not an option.

i'm going to aim ans answer your final question ultimate i will as my spouse and that i've got been between the 1st actual ever militia -to-militia couples with little ones ever command subsidized to Korea. i don't understand how the army does it, yet your loved ones care plan and the place you eventually finally end up residing, will notably plenty dictate who you utilize for toddler care companies. the clarification I say it relatively is that Korea has many workouts and you're able to desire to have a provider it extremely is obtainable 24/7 to drop your babies off with throughout recollects. the toddler care centers many times do not stay open 24/7 and could not save your babies in one day. So, you in all probability would desire to discover somebody with abode childcare which will do it or a interior of reach Korean or Filipino (which we did). on your case, you will better than in all probability be residing in Hannam Village (not on Yongsan), There would desire to be multiple individuals over there keen to observe your babies for you throughout recollects. As to how long it relatively is going to take to your command sponsorship, there are too many factors to verify that. Your rank, your MOS, the unit which you would be assigned, and housing availability all ingredient in to that. Even in spite of if somebody in the comparable MOS makes a decision to enhance their excursion will result how long. there is not any thank you to tell that.

in most cases you can be discharged from the military for not having one i am prior service some people would just say they didn't have one to get out but others were honest you should really talk to your command about this

That's a toughone. Have you called Military One Source?

One of you will probably have to stay back, unless his mother and/or father is willing to take them in. You need to talk to your chain of command about this immediately, so they can plan accordingly. November is pretty soon.

Good luck.