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How do I address married couples on wedding placecards?

When making placecards for married couples, should both cards address the husband's name? For instance, should one placecard say "Mr. John Doe" and the other "Mrs. John Doe," or can it be "Mr. John Doe" and "Mrs. Jane Doe?" Ideally, I would like to identify the wife's first name for mingling purposes while using titles to maintain some formality of the event.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    With most questions like this, there is the popular answer; and the formally correct protocol which -- since most people rarely use formal protocol and therefore are unfamiliar with the correct answer -- is typically less popular.

    The correct formal form of a person's name in social situations is their *title* (Mr, Mrs, Ms, Dr, Miss, and so on) and their *surname*. Their given name isn't part of it at all. So, your placecards whould say "Mr Doe" and "Mrs Doe". Isn't it nice that you can resolve the issues of formality, and simultaneously resolve most people's feminist scruples?

    That however doesn't solve your problem. You want to keep things formal, but to give people one another's first names so that they relate to one another informally. Isn't that a bit inconsistent? The simple solution is to let them offer their given names to one another. Like this:

    "Mrs Doe, how do you do?"

    "Very well, thank-you, Mr Smith. Please call me Jane."

    "And I am Joe. Do you know the bride well?"

    Most people are able to manage with the cues you have given them; and of course you and your bridesmaids should also make a point of introducing guests to one another, like this:

    "Jane, may I introduce my dear friend, Mr Jones?"

    "Yes of course! How do you do, sir?"

    "Tom, this is my cousin, Mrs Doe"

    "How do you do?"

    -- there, everyone knows the whole name, and yet you have maintained appropriate formalities.

  • 1 decade ago

    I think you should drop the Mr and Mrs. Just use the people's names "Jane Doe" and John Doe". After all the only people that really see the place cards are the people themselves. They're just there on the table so they know which place to sit. They're generally way too small for anyone else to read so serve no purpose in terms of mingling. Besides people will introduce themselves to each other.

    Source(s): event planner
  • Jen
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    It depends on how formal your wedding is in other ways, but the best idea is to have the placecards say "John Doe" and "Jane Doe." Not The Rev. Dr. Jane Doe, not Professor John Doe, PhD. Place cards arent the place for honorifics.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    First of all, it is spelled "etiquette". Second, this entire challenge seems like reward fishing. Most husbands form of recognize their better halves well peers, so how well of a buddy is that this that you do not know her in any respect? Second, is that this whatever your spouse wishes to wait? The marriage ceremony of a peers SON (no longer even the buddy), neither of that have been predominant ample in her existence to introduce to her husband. Sounds like anyone who distantly is aware of your spouse passed over her cope with publication to the couple to be married, and so they despatched every person an invitation, figuring out complete good they would not come, however would ship a reward, considering the fact that that is the right factor to do whilst you acquire a marriage ceremony invite. I'd wager meals cash this may be a marriage ceremony that is normally some distance clear of wherein you reside, and a registry card used to be integrated.

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