help! My dad hates me :(?

first thing i have to wonder is if he drinks. it's not always easy to tell if people have a drinking problem, some are very good at hiding it... even from family. so get that out of the way first. might as well consider drugs while you're at it.

once you are truly convinced that it is neither of the above, let's move on. so, he has some issues. you have a new boyfriend? you spending a lot of time away from home? is he losing his connection from you? that's bound to happen sometime, everyone reacts differently to it, but i don't get that from your post.

once you have all those things out of the way, we get to the serious issues. how's his health? anything obvious? illness can affect people in strange ways. but i have a problem with that since you seem to think he changes his behavior in front of people. illness would normally make him a bear at anytime.

only thing i have left is mental issues. that's a tough one for you to be involved in. i never assume two parents in families anymore, but you should probably sit down with mom if she's around. actually there could be issues between them that is causing this. if she's not around, it could be he sees her in you and it hurts.

maybe you could have some alone time with him and bluntly ask him what's up. you may not like his reaction, but it may help to guage what the problem is, because from what you say, there is a problem. barring all else, he may be developing some mental issues.

that's what i was getting down to. if you eliminate everything else, you need to consider that he may have some mental problem. sounds too young to be developing alzhiemer's which could affect someone this way, but there are a variety of other illnesses that can be otherwise subtle.

bottom line is you need to get someone close to you to see and understand what you are going through. don't try this whiney, b*tchy complaining. they need to sit down with you as adults and talk this over with you. i'm not religious in that way but if you have a church you might consider talking with your minister.

about all i got. good luck with this.

If U R a good kid and U know in your heart that U R doing your best, then do not blame yourself.

Dad could be acting that way for a lot of different reasons. Anything from marital disputes with your mom, to having difficulty at his job. Maybe U could find out what is bugging him? Men also go thru middle age crisis like women do, only with men it is more a mind set than physical changes like menopause.

Look for clues from other family members. Find someone U trust to confide in about what is going on.

Dad could be afraid of loosing his "little girl" or just being a grump. It is hard to say. Job stress is often a sore spot with men.

Keep being yourself, and know that U will grow up and move on.

Good luck.

ok,this is kind a complicated.You must talk to him.Ask him why he's acting like that?

Way to much pressure at work?Did he separated from your mom some time ago?Any other problems?Family or money matters?

Perhaps there is a problem he never told you about, because he doesn't want to upset you,but than he's full of negative energy. It's not your fault and it's not an excuse for his behavior.

I don't think he hates you( after all, you said you two had a wonderful relationship), it just obvious that he's under loads of stress!And there's unfortunately nothing you can do about it.

Just try to talk.And find a person you can thrust(from family,someone who would believe you,I bet there's a person like that!) to talk to about the way you feel.I think it'll be good for you,and that it'll help you in solving the problem.

Be patient.Wish u luck:-)))

I don't think it has anything to do with you at all. I think he's going through something & he's taking it out on you. Just sit him down & talk to him about it - without sounding like you're accusing him. Just say, "Dad, I always thought that we were really close but, lately I feel like things have changed. Did I do something wrong?" I'm sure from there he'll say, "No, it's not you.. It's *insert whatever the real problem is*" Maybe a family member is sick.. Maybe HE is sick. Maybe he's just stressed out about his job or the economy. There's a million things it could be.. Maybe it's multiple things. You won't know until you talk to him!

I doubt that it's anything to do with you. Maybe he's going through some life changes or experiences that have him extremely moody. Do you suspect any substance use? Whether legal or illegal may be affecting him as well...

Finances can be a huge stressor. Sometimes parents worry about money and not being able to support their family.

Regardless of the situation, he shouldn't treat you like that. Even if you where the most horrible child on the planet you still don't deserve that. It's a form of mental abuse.

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Omg My Mom's Like That.

She Expects So Much From Me And Goshhh.

:( I'm Sorry To Hear That Thouqqhh.

Maybe Somethinqqs Botherinqq Him :(

Can You Answer Mine Plz? And Thx♥

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this could be the effects of a mild stroke or a mental problem.

Get him to a Dr and be sure that the Dr knows about your concerns

that isn't your actual father. Our Lord Jesus is. i'm very sorry you have a recommend father and boy whilst he meets the Lord whilst he dies he better seem out. God could have him pay the implications. you need to chat on your mom and on your college counselor approximately it. you won't have the ability to handle this on my own. i could even call Social centers in case you need to. call teen Hotlines. they are in a position to handbook you.

try filming it sometime when you know him and you will be alone in the house by using a nanny cam. put it in a teddy bear or something. then show it to your mom and tell her it could be something medical stress, stroke, something.

Maybe something personal happened, and he is taking it out on you.

Maybe pull him aside and talk to him.

D: its not healthy. especially for you.

at least your parents arent getting a divorce :(, like mine