What do you do about a mother who won't do what is necessary for her kids?

This is a situation for your husband to deal with. You have no legal standing with regards to this child.

Your husband should take the child for her needle if the mother cant/wont, even if he needs to take a day off work!!!

Of course the child doesnt want to miss the first day of school,.......this needs to be be sorted out before then.

EDIT:

I want to add that I am both a mother AND a step mother, so I completely understand the situation.

However, as a step mother its not your place to tend to this issue..........its your husbands place to sort this out.

As a mother I certainly wouldnt want my ex's new wife 'butting in".............and I would never 'butt' in with regards to my step daughter.........I leave it to my husband to deal with.

UPDATE:

Why is the child going out of state when she is starting school? I dont understand.

My husbands ex is the same, she does anything to make things difficult, in fact she wont communicate at all with either of us.......recently my husband was diagnosed with a heart condition, and the kids need to be checked aswell, he had to write a letter to his ex sister inlaw to pass on the information .....thats how ridicuolus she carries on!

GOOD LUCK.....

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This happens sometimes with ex's. They spend too much time behaving badly than doing what is right for the children;if you can then take the child for the shot;down the road the children will know where the stability and support they can count on is; and you can bet they will come to you and respect you for that.

I agree this is the Dads place to step in! Maybe MOM is pullin your chain cause of you steppin in and takin over. She could have plans to do it already who knows.

But really! no mom like the new Steppy to tell her how to care for her OWN child that grew inside her, and came out of her!

sorry for bein blunt! I am a mom and could never handle a steppy tellin me what to do with my own kids, it rubs me wrong! I am sure you are just tryin to do whats best! But step back and let Dad take this bull by the horns!

Sounds like she's trying to jerk your chain. I'll never understand parents who use the kids as tools to attack their exes. If y'all live in the same town (or close by), I'd be inclined to make the Dr's appointment and just go get the girl and get her there myself.

You let her Dad do it. Like you said YOu are the step-mom not the mom. You don't need to talk to your husbands ex he does. This is not your place. In fact if you try to make it your place it will only get worse. No mother wants the "new wife" telling her what and how to take care of their child. So take a deep breath express your frustration to your husband and encourage him to deal with his ex!!!

You both should grow up and stop fighting over your opinions.

Every situation needs a hero and if you don't step up there won't be one.

Just a couple bozo's that can't agree.

Your husband should be dealing with this.

Maybe you can send the school letter to her showing that it's required in order for her to attend.

Get a hold of your husband's lawyer. You should be able to get a court date pretty quickly. The judge will probably order her to do it. If she doesn't she will be held in contempt of court.

wait for the kid to return and then take her to get the shot. it's too bad that she'll miss a day of school.