I desperately need help with an over protective mom situation?

my mom did all of those things to me when i was in high school and junior high. I eventually went to boarding school as I could not take it anymore and started acting out. it wasn't the frilly kind of boarding school on tv more like reform school but it was a lot better than being at home. some moms just dont get it. I am a mother now and have vowed I would never do this to my child. just remember that in a few years you are out of there. I am in my 20's and married now but I still remember that suffocating I am trapped and have no where to turn feeling. life seems to go by so slowly when you are in your teens. I will promise you that you will be out of there soon! whether you are 13, 14 or 15: being 18 is just a few years away. I really hope that you have an aunt or cousin or dad that you can confide in. I went to a friends church and talked to the youth pastor there when I was younger, he was my support because I could talk to him in a safe environment that my mom couldn't snoop on and criticize me for. Good luck ok and try and find someone to talk to. sometimes just an ear to listen is just enough to get you thru a few more days without cutting. Really good luck and God Bless!

Okay sweetie lets slow this down. Lets face it most parents are pretty off the mark with their kids. You're not alone and shes scared about you doing something dumb and ruining your life but doesn't realize she's pushing you to act out. Great thing about this is you'll never do it to your kids (hopefully)lol NOW! Put the razor away and listen up. You have to get calm with her, the ranting and raving, screaming and cussing never really got anyone anywhere. Get cool and psychological with her. "Mom, exactly what are you looking for?" If you let me know I can tell you where it is or isn't". Your grades say you work great under pressure. I mean who could study with moms always snooping? Ask her, "Did you do something you're now afraid Im going to do?" Could be a history here. be careful. Also advice other family members whats up and see what they say. But stop the cutting. I cut my chest and arms for years and got nothing but scars from. You are destined to live in pain or unhappiness. Maybe its your mom that needs help and not you. Try to help her out.

If she is digging around she suspects you have a problem, but she is expecting you to face up to your problem and ask her to go to counseling. You know if she suggested it you would have a fit, deny everything and say she was a rotten mother for even suspecting you abusing yourself like that.

So if you want help tell her you are sorry, ask to see a counselor, she knows you aren't perfect she wants you to be but that is out of her hands now.

The path you are on is your own choosing.

Having raging fits and swearing solves nothing.

Any teen who thinks that not checking on their teenager and letting them do what they want will be a better way of parenting has not lived that experience yet.

Walk the path before being critical of the people that love you.

I feel a lot of sympathy for you, would like to give you a big hug.

Of course I cant be sure, but I think your mother cares about you so much, but she hasnt discovered a good way to express her love for you, so it comes out as a mess, that hurts you and doesnt help you.

My mother really tried to be a good mother, she was just too messed up herself, to be able to do it. She had no confidence, so tried to smother me - too.

I think perhaps it is going to have to be YOU, that takes control of this painful situation, because it seems you can see what is happening much more objectively that your mother.. You will need to be very brave, make decisions that your mother is going to find very very hard to accept, and may try to prevent.. My suggestion is to look for an opportunity to develop your business, that is interesting, and which suits your abilities, preferably somewhere that means you need to stay away from home, for perhaps at least a few days of every week.

When you come back home, be sure to offer to tell your mother about your life & your work, if she will listen. I think it will be important for you and her, to learn to talk and listen, - to each other..

I dont know what kind of support you might find. Look for any potentially supportive schemes available, but be sure you take a positive, self supportive path, as much as you can, so that you dont fall into a similar, painful controlling situation with anyone else.

I think that to begin with - you may find it hard, because your mother has filled up so much of your life, and your thinking, with her needs and demands, you may be quite out of touch with many of your own needs.

If this is so, inspite of the difficulties of dealing with her control, when you are out of her reach, you may find yourself feeling anxious and very alone.

Hold on to your new life, take it a step at a time, and accept your own mistakes without blaming yourself. You can do it.

I find my own kind of praying has helped me so much.

There's power and love for you to discover, in yourself and in every corner of the universe.

cutting is substituting physical pain for emotional pain.

it may seem better but its not. you could try to talk to your mom with "what if" questions. or- try to find out why she feels the need to go though your stuff. you can bet that she just wants to make sure you are safe, but there are some obvious trust issues on her end.

another thing to consider is- if she has always been this way or was there something that happened in your family that made her start.

Tell her to **** off.

Simple.

No really, be like, "Mom, can you let me live my ******* life and stop trying to ******* "help" because your just being very annoying and over protective!"

And just leave the house for a while. Do this after she does something like talk about anything she recently found out about you.

well take an appointment with your family Dr along with your mother and explain everything so only she can listen to the doctor ,and all mothers are scared for their children's future, but doctor can give entire confidence to her so she will change little by little all the best

i think u should tell her "i need my space and my privacy, would u like me doing that to u, look into ur stuff and snooping around!? i've gotten no more less then A's, u noe why i started cuttin is bcus of u."

i bet she'll be speechless when she hears this

good luck :]

See a councilor . very inportant. you and your mum need some help. trust me, i promise things will work out if you take action

cutting is f'n grossssssssss!

uuuuuueeeeehhhhhhht!!