Why do people think looking at pornography is not harming them?

I don't believe that porn will turn men into women killers or pedophiles.There isn't any research shown that porn causes men to become pedophiles or sex-obsessed. If you are having a problem with your boyfriend/husband watching porn, then you need to talk to him about it.

While I agree that pornography might lead into over stimulation to the point where a person can't get it up without, I do not agree that it will always lead into death/mutiliation and pedophilia.

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On the contrary, some couples watch porn together. In fact, it even makes sex a little better due to the stimulation boost. You don't need to even be watching it the whole time, you could just be listening to it in the background.

Sometimes us women can't be there ALL the time.

Is women using a vibrator any different from a man looking at porn? Men worry we won't want to have sex as often if we have one and it will affect the relationship. You could use the same argument that vibrators will lead into women using more risky sex toys, risking harming their body.

Men are visually oriented, so they look at porn. Women are emotionally oriented, so we fantasize about things and use a dildo.

Either way you could argue porn or vibrators are bad.

They are only as bad are you make them out to be.

If someone has to turn to these devices repeatedly, it's probably a symptom of a dysfunctional relationship, or a preexisting condition.

Porn has a place. I'm a father of two young boys, ages 9 and 5. I would never place porn in an area that my boys could get a hold of, regardless if its a video/dvd or on the internet. Porn doesn't affect my relationship.

I happen to enjoy porn, (a few times a week; more so when I was younger, no kids and had more time on my hands), but since I'm a busy man, I have to put other things first.

I think porn can enhance your sexual life and its a beautiful thing when you are alone, horny and need to get off. That's my opinion and everyone has a right to theirs.

I don't know that it necessarily does any good for a relationship - maybe it can give some ideas to try :-0 - but I doubt it does the harm you claim. Almost all men have looked at porn at some time but very few extend this to child pornography or murder. If you have evidence to the contrary please present it.

Sexuality is an important part of our psyche. Repressing it is what seems to cause harm. There is the recent case of a man shooting-up a health club in Pennsylvania because he hadn't had sex in many years. Then there is the Catholic clergy who were admonished to remain celibate and who probably don't look at much porn either. These conditions seem to have produced an army of child rapists.

Indeed, the facts seem to argue for the opposite conclusion of the one you made.

It provides an alternative when my partner is not available (out of state, on a trip, etc.) eg. when that time cannot be spent with her (consider that point of your argument discredited).

It can provide inspiration for new things you may not have thought of (It's well known that spicing up the physical aspects of a relationship can EASILY save it, consider that another counterpoint to your flimsy argument).

Considering I'm not a psychopathic child molestor or homicide enthusiast, it will never lead to anything as serious as the things you listed. It's the same as people that think violent video games inspire kids to commit crimes. If a person was that sadistic/twisted, if porn didn't inspire them, something else would, it's how they are. Media doesn't tell people what to do, peoples own will makes them commit crimes.

Your argument is completely invalid and close minded. I take it you have personal experience, maybe a guy found you terrible in bed and would rather take care of himself because you were insufficient. Maybe you saw a case of child pornography on the news and took great offense, assuming all the wrong things.

Cheer up and quit looking for things to hate/attack.

Too bad you don't list any actual studies or citations- like the ones that completely refute the myth that pornography is related to violent crime.

I am not saying that pornography is all good- of course it isn't. It has negative effects, just as it can have positive ones.

All I'm saying is that it's sad that you are incredibly close-minded about porn; it's written in your question that you already know what you believe and you aren't about to be swayed by anybody else.

(Also, how sad that you focus only on men. Theresa Flynt reports that 56% of her customers are women, and I am a woman who much enjoys porn myself- probably more than many men. To frame this question as one that says only men watch porn is very misleading).

Well, I'm 18 and I'm single. I look at porn sometimes, but I actually find it disguising most of the time. The most extreme I will go to looking is seeing girls kiss on the lips and that's about it. I've been this way since I was little. I am actually more disgusted by porn now than ever.

And how can a man be satisfied with his woman if he's looking at porn? That makes no sense at all.

Edit: Porn has no real purpose on making one a child molester though. Either you are already a pervert or not.

So you are saying that 98% of american men are pedophiles and murderers? Where do you get off pretending to be better than everyone else is the best question.

If he is more interested in porn than your, there is definitely some communication issues in your relationship and you should not vilify everyone who watches porn because you have issues.

Stop casting your insecurities on the world and fix your relationship.

I watch porn and have been for years. I promise you it has not led me to be a fricking pedophile or into other realms equally horrifying. You need to keep it in perspective. Porn doesn't corrupt the individual unless the individual is there to be corrupted. If you have your head on straight, porn is not going to turn you evil. Period.

And porn has done lots of good things, it brings us together, gives us ideas to try, scenarios to explore and lets face it, is great viewing material when you want to get some "alone" time in. 100% honesty here.

Wow man, viewing porn doesn't mean everyone is going to turn into a child molester. Nor does it mean that you are gonna turn into a murderer. Leave your ranting for your psych, this isn't the place. There is no doubt that porn CAN ruin a relationship, but it doesn't mean it will. My husband looks at porn..... he's not raping kids and I'm still alive to write this.... and he's been enjoying it for years...... hasn't effected the relationship either... i'm not an uptight prude that think porn is cheating.......