How do I get him to want to do it? Is there a problem here?

people can get addicted to porn..that might be it..or maybe ur coming onto him to quick that hes not having to chase you. my hubby and i had the same problem, and i asked a similar question to this. wed lay in bed and id just turn to him and say...wanna have sex..or id just star touching his....i changed how i come on to him now...i make him aroused by laying near him and rubbing myself onto him or just doing things i know would turn him on...but i never ask him..soon enough he gets worked up enough that he starts taking my clothes off.lol. but try to find out what he thinks looks sexy on you and wear it when you go to see him. Good Luck!!

sweetie, good guys get like this eventually. dont worry about it. People say that all guys want is to get in your pants, but thas steriotypical.

He wants to be with you forever. He wants to make sure that you guys dont do it to much becasue he doesnt want it to get old.

about the porn thing, it probably makes him uncomfortable. Please dont take this the wrong way, but you should be respectful of that. Youu could try telling him that the reason you watch it is becasue he isnt satisfying your needs. Tell him what you want him to do. let him know that you are feeling unwanted.

Just like you said, you dont ask him to do it all the time, so he should be ok with only doing it every once in a while. if not, leave him. It seems low that you would leave him over something like that, but if hes not willing to fufill your needs then you dont need him.

GOOD LUCK. I HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT FOR YOU.

Do you know if he met anyone during your one month break-up? If so he may be spending his quality time with her and may now feel you to be inadequate. He is playing games with you and maybe you should see how far you can go with him and see if he will catch on to what you want of him. The porn issue, well that is a problem and once again he could be spending his quality time with the women of the pages and pleasing himself. Once again I want you to start hinting at the fact you want him and continue from there. If you see a rise then you may have him back, but then again you may not !!

well , i'm a natural guy and i hate rules as long as you are mature enough. If you apply all about birth control and you don't do sex with him 24/7, find a safe private place where you can have it ,and take him to it during a weekend or something..

now i tell you this on the basis that you are getting married ;)

haha, honey, i'd recommend that you wait till you finish college and be independent before you think too much about these stuff, yet you can stay with your boyfriend ;)

my lightful regards ;)

Its kind of weird that he doesnt want to do it.

You can do it in your car if either of you have one.

When we were really desperate (and really young) me and my boyfriend took a blanket and did it in a medow that is always empty. We also did it in the public pool shower when the pool was empty. We did it in the bathroom at a hotel (we said we needed to use the restroom and ended up walking around to try and find an empty area)

Be creative lol.

well if he doesnt want to do it act like u dont want to do it an he will come around unless you do not want to wait make him want to do it turn him on so bad that it dont give him any other choice .. find his turn on spots like niniblin on his ear or neck whatever it is it works an if u really want it that bad an dont want parents to know the best thing to do is go somewhere hidden on the ground with a blanket behind the garage or something

I don't think the fact that he "doesn't" want to do it is the real problem here.

Maybe he's just afraid his parents will hear you guys... try doing it in the car, outside, make it spontaneous and interesting...

Or he could be gay too.... that's always a possibility.

well im a man so i cant answer this great but when i wanted a ******* from my girlfriend or sex i would put her hand on my dick an she would get the idea. and my parents are always home so we waited and when she was tired i would tell her it would feel great for me and she might like it

I smell something fishy..... guys always have a big reason for not wanting to do it, you know what I mean?? Something very important....maybe he is seing somebody else??/

But if the issue is the location, then get a hotel room....tease him and talk to him if you feel bad.

get jobs and get your own place. I can see it being wierd for him to do it with you with his parents down the hall. Take him to a hotel one night and see if he's still "tired". If he pulls the same stunt it's time to get a real man.