Roommate has new "boink buddy"?

I think she owes you, if you know what I mean.

You are totally within line. You probably should have set up the ground rules before you started renting to him, but too late for that.

A few rules that are totally reasonable:

- He will not give keys to other people.

- All guests will knock. (Start locking the door so she has to.)

- Purchase your own food and clean up your own messes. You are responsible for making sure your guests do the same. If your guest accidentally uses something that belongs to the other person, it must be replaced.

- Guests will not be left unattended in the house (this is a pretty obvious one).

- Guests will be fully clothed and will respect your privacy by not peeing with the door open. (Ew, gross. She should know better.)

If he has a problem with that, he can find his own place or go visit her at her place.

She needs to knock before she enters your home. She needs to leave the house when he is at work. She needs to stay out of your fridge/food. She needs to wear clothes and close the bathroom door.

Can I assume that you are doing your friend a favour by allowing them to rent a room from you? If so, you can tell him that since you were kind enough to rent a room to him - he needs to respect that it is still your home. It's great that he's got a new "friend" but the whole world doesn't need to know. It is absolutely unnacceptable that she stays at your house during the day when he is at work. What is she going to do next, start throwing parties at your house?

Perhaps he has lied to his friend and implied that he is the owner of the house? You definitely need to speak with him, you're so not out of line!

I used to have friends that used to come to parties and stay for the whole weekend they would bring nothing with them use all the shampoo and shower gels toilet paper tissues deodorant everything bathroom when they went they took what was left or just left empty containers, they never brought any food either so when it was party time again they rang up to find out the date i said oh yes you can bring something they said we cant afford to i said well each time i do these parties it costs me $260 which is money i could put towards bills, they never called after that, i spent the money i had saved on a holiday for our family i was doing it for their benefit. so get rid of her before you are broke trust me she is not a true friend.

THIS IS WHY I ALWAYS SAY YOU MUST HAVE A CONTRACT.

If you don't have one now... write up one. (e-mail me i have a VERY Complete one)

Next you MUST talk to the room mate. if they have visitors they can not be overnight/// or say they MUST leave when the tenant leaves. Your house is not being paid for by this person... otherwise they will stay more and more and use utilities which the room mate will not pay!

This person is eating your food... YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID... "YOU are NOT to use ANY OF my food" more clear...

people don't know what the boundaries are unless you set them. (INCH / MILE)

The tenant should be providing his own food...

Also you don't know what else this woman got into... did she steal anything.

ALSO tell the bf that she IS NOT TO LEAVE THE ROOM unless she is fully dressed.

YOU NEED TO ADDRESS EVERYTHING YOU SAID IN THIS AND TELL HIM WHAT IS ALLOWED AND WHAT IS NOT. (actually in writing)

And if you have to ... say it in front of the gf/ bb.

Boink- 1. to have relations. 2. Whacking someone with something in the head 3. Bouncy noise used mainly in cartoons.

Oh Boy! The nerve of her!

The person at fault is your room mate. He should've had enough common sense to introduce her to you because it was the right thing to do. This is YOUR house and speak to her about what she's allowed to take from the fridge and what belongs to you (not your room mate).

When you know that she has left, go and speak to your room mate about this situation. Tell him that you don't mind his new "friend" stopping by but she's a GUEST IN YOUR BOOK and should act like one.

You need to confront the roommate before this gets too out of hand. Which it is very close to now! Overnight guests are not acceptable, and staying while he is not there is totally and completely out of line. But you need to discuss this with him, not her, he is the one renting from you. Kick him out if he doesn't like your rules. He is taking advantage of your generosity.

I think you should have outlined the rules before you let your friend move in.

As for your friend, it doesn't sound like he's very considerate and appreciative.

As for his "boink buddy", no point in asking table manners of swine.

your friend is renting the room. she's not.

either she can pay rent or he can go to her house for 'candy and breakfast'.

you were SO right.

and a lot nicer than i would have been.

your house, your rules. plus, tell her she needs to pay rent. more bills are created with another person there. more water, electric and sewage are used.