My Brother In Law is harassing my sister and threatening us.?

keep her with u guys!

dont keep her with him

i think she hs suffered enough

good luck

dana<333

Keep your sister with you and make sure the baby is around when he upsets the wife. I know this sounds mean to the baby but it will help. If the baby is scared of that man the police will be convinced that he is dangerous. Also, put up a small tapeless recorder somewhere so you can record the death threats and show them to the police.

Why did they make you withdraw the complaint? Filing a police complaint and getting him arrested will not harm you or your sister in any way, not even on your permenant record. Make sure you make him pay for the expenses on the baby he made your sister pay. You can do that in court. Also, claim the house even though it is on the second floor. It gives your sister her own property and money if she chooses to divorce WHICH SHE SHOULD!

Tell her that the man was almost about to beat a 73 year old man and that he is not only a threat to her but her baby, you, and the rest of that family. If she thinks that a man who threatens to KILL you is going to love you, she is wrong. Tell her in harsh terms and get that through her head.

He won't be killing anyone after he comes out of prison. You can tell his boss at the Indian Railwawys in Bangalore. He will keep an eye on that man for you and he may even lose his job. It's hard to think of killing anybody when you have no money. Tell EVERYONE. Make sure it's on his record and don't be afraid to use other people as witnesses. Have a friend or two over at your house when he threatens your family so they can be witnesses in court.

In truth, you've already won this battle because he is careless and stupid. It won't be hard. Just take some action.

I can not say this loudly enough DO NOT SEND HER BACK THE GUY IS A CREEP! advise your elders that what this man is doing is illegal and cruel. he will not change. file your complaint and follow through. this man will never change and he is dangerous to your family and to his own daughter.document every threat or instance of abuse that you can. have your sister fill for divorce. In my opinion he has abandoned his wife and child. he is an utter disgrace to the family. get rid of him! your family and your sister and her daughter deserve better and can have better but first they have to get rid of this worthless,and dangerous I might add, loser.sure the elders might not take kindly to it but a man is supposed to take of his family and protect them not abuse them and abandon them. he is a disgrace and any elder that tells you different should be questioned as treating any person like this is a disgrace and it is down right shameful. your sister and the family didn't ask for this so why should they put up with it.forget what the elder says and do everything that you can to stay safe. get the police involved and don't be afraid of this bully. you have the right to fear for your safety and that of your sister and her baby. and tell your sis that he will not be okay and he will not change. to go back is to live a miserable life with a dangerous person who could and will one day hurt her ,her family and her daughter. get out now while the getting is good there is no shame in it. he is the one who has brought shame to the family get rid of him.also any elder that says this is okay is not a respectable person any more. the safety and well being of the family especially the old, very young and the pregnant comes first. if anything they should demand that he leave her alone and encourage her to leave as his behavior is shameful to the family.an elders job is to make sure the family stays safe and honorable. this man is less than honorable he is the scum of the earth and is not deserving of a wife and baby

Never send your sister to him untill the matter is resolved.

First thing file a complaint in a Police station of his being abusive and a threat to life of your family and sister and also to your sister's child. This will keep him at bay of even touching your family and sister. Other threats are all fake by him. BUT U SHOULD DO THIS BEFORE HE FILES THE SAME IN THE POLICE STATION.

Secondly your sister being independant can easily divorvce him IF SHE WANTS TO and get custody of the child .

Thirdly you can bring this issue in front of your communty members and ask for thier involvement. This would again act as a armour from him once the community members are on your side.

Things do not seem to improve any further here. He cannot be believed in any case. Dump him for everybody's good.

All these folks are telling you the truth, friend. Do not send her back , or you will be burying her very soon.

Indian men hate it when their wives give them daughters. Why? barbecue girls breed while a son can make money for the family,see?

also, if she was working, then she needs to go back to work as soon as she is physically able. She is going to need the money so she can raise that baby. Tell her to file for a divorce and help her secure a good lawyer. Do not back down from this man. If he tries to attack anyone else, you all need to beat him up within an inch of his worthless life. Make him leave you all alone and make him afraid instead.

No one can make you a victim without your consent.

Ok this is serious, dont listen to da elders for once n file dat police complaint again, i've heard many women suffer like this n have been killed by dheir abusive husbands.

I dunno how da legal system works dhere but, She's at a very critical point try to go to court n tell dhem to issue a restraining order to make him stay away from her n da child, n he needs anger management or some sort of therapy make the police or da courts do dat b4 he kills ur sis n niece. And along with that sumone from ur household or da government (police, security guards etc) shud keep n eye on him from the house so he doesnt dare to harm them again.

Your Elders are "Old School" they believe when a person is nice that they can change. It's only a matter of time before he hits her and strikes her down. This is how domestic violence starts. With the arguing and name calling, then when he gets mad the slap across the face. And when he "cools" down...the I love you, I will never do it again. See what you made me do...don't do things that get me angry.

She doesn't have to put up with it nor you or the family.

report it the next time, and tell your sis to file for divorce with legal aid in your area....they can help.

Please tell her to stop this before she gets hurt and the baby gets hurt. It can happen...

If she pretends that she is sick and cannot work he will not want her to come back home. I know this is wrong but she must pretend that she is really really sick everytime he comes around , She must be lieing down .She has to pretend that she is so weak that she cannot walk.Hopefully after a while he will want to divorce her and marry someone else that will work for him. I feel so sorry for you and your family because this man will never change he is a beast and there is no changing a beast. If you and your family beleive in prayer. Pray that he leaves you all alone and maybe your prayers will be answered. I wish you and you family so much love and happiness.

i am shocked,that such things yet happen..i have genuine request please do not send her there...i guess your sister wants him because she is afraid of the name and reputation getting spoilt...he told you people right,that not to complain the police and all,so mostly if you send him a divorce agreement he would not accept it,he seems to be mentally sick!i guess you must take help from institutions which help children and women...here you will get is only advice but i feel you need something more than just a advice...there are many institutions that help women and grant them justice even getting him punished for all he did..a very well known institution is MAJLIS...this will grant full support and help to your sister and her baby,getting her husband punished and even you would be able to get divorce and he would never be able to harm you people...i'll give you the phone number of Majlis,you better approach to them as quick as possible..the number is 26662394,26661252..i am not aware if there are such helping institutions in Bangalore..but yea,you can find out an give them a approach,but see to it that you get your sister divorced...and do approach any of the women welfare associations to help you...now the maximum i can do is guide you with my prayers...so i'll pray for you. Hope you get your sister out of the hell...Al the best!

May god bless you....

NO, NO, NO! DO NOT SEND HER BACK TO HIM! Trust me, he will hurt her! He will abuse her, verbally and probably physically! Do not send her back, tell the police immediately to keep an eye out for him & do something about him. Get a restraining order! If he's threatening you and your family, do not under any circumstances send your sister back to him. He will hurt her and the baby. Guaranteed! Those people do not change. He said he doesn't want her back, anyways! Trust me! Good luck!

Invite him over, than shoot him in the head, tell police it was self-defense (its your home, so u have a right), he has a crime record, so they should belive ya, it would also be good if you have any records of his phone calls or any other proofs what a maniac he is. Under no condition let your sister go back to him.