Christians, how can John 3:16 be compatable with Romans 9?

He hated Esau because he traded his birth right for something to eat. Which God knew he would do before he was born. It is the same way when we trade our birth right as children of God, for that which can not sustain us in life, or death. He is not acting against His will but with it, since He has known from the beginning of time what choices we would make. He also knows if we will eventually, given time will choose life, or death, and because of His great love for us shows mercy on those of us who will choose life. He could at anytime let us die in our sin, and be lost to the depths of hell, yet He endures with great mercy and grace knowing that one day we will see the light. (verses 15-24) And, it is these verses that show the compatibility to John 3:16. Yes, you have free will, for though God waits knowing one day you will see the light, you still have the choice of following Him once you know the truth, or not, (see Hebrews 6:4-6).

I think it's obvious, God didn't love Esau, and He doesn't love everyone, only those who obey Him. So tradition is wrong.

I think it's also obvious that God's love is conditional. Not unconditional. Jesus said that the Father loved him because . . . a condition. That is conditional love. So I reject tradition again.

John 10

17 "The reason my Father loves me is that I lay down my life—only to take it up again."

John 16:27

No, the Father himself loves you because you have loved me and have believed that I came from God.

I find it compatible with John 3:16 because Kosmos has more than one meaning. Kosmos is the Greek word for "world" in John 3:16.

Kosmos can mean parts of the population, not always all of the population. It can mean the trees and the stars if you use it a certain way. But in the way Jesus indicated in John chapters 14-17, he is referring to the non-believers. In John 3:16, He means the chosen, those who would be believers.

God hated Esau because of his actions in the world that was. As far as free will goes, God gave free will to those who were deceived by satan during his first rebellion. Everyone else was chosen, predesdined and foreordained.

...you really should (re-read) Romans 9 vs.14 thru 18.

God doesn't exist so he can't love anybody...

Babies wouldn't be born severly disfigured and die if there was a God...

It can't, and anyone who tries to make sense of the bible will find themselves on a futile pursuit.