Anyone else embarrassed or insecure of their weight after having a baby..?

I'm still the same weight as when my daughter was born. I'd like to drop about 15 pounds. It's a struggle because I have a sweet tooth.

If this is your first pregnancy, you may not start to show until your 5th or 6th month. I'm at week 19 and have only a very small bump; I haven't experienced the over-all weight gain either. Some women don't. I don't really look pregnant yet. I had another friend who didn't show until she was almost 6 months along. You didn't say how tall you are, but if you're short then 95 pounds isn't alarming. My SIL is exactly 5 feet tall and she weighs about 95 pounds - she eats very well, she just has a turbo-drive metabolism! She's healthy even though she's really thin. I'm not as small as you, but I am small. Pre-pregnancy: 5'3", 118 pounds. at 19 weeks pregnant, 122 pounds. That's only 4 pounds in over 4 months. And you know what? I feel great and my doctor says that I'm perfectly healthy. So..I just ignore people who try to lecture me about eating. I eat - plenty! every woman's body is different. For what it's worth, lots of sugar isn't good for you because it doesn't have any nutritional value. Instead, snack on fruit, cheese, yogurt, nuts, peanut butter, and other healthy food. Also, make sure you're getting plenty of protein - beans, peas, nuts, etc. You and your baby need all those nutrients. If you're eating well and still not gaining weight, ask your doctor about it. If he/she thinks you're ok, then politely thank everyone for their concern and tell them that their unsolicited advice is only stressing you out, and to please stop.

I was fat my entire life. I was 270 lbs when I was 12. I went on a crash diet and lost 110 lbs when I was 13 so I could be accepted. I still got fat jokes, I ate, I regained everything within 7 months. I also lost some hair, passed out a few times, and didn't get a period for months.

I did a less extreme version of that when I was 19 but at the weight creep back on after I graduated from college and got a desk job. I gained a lot more after I had my daughter.

I have come to terms with being fat. It caused me to develop my personality, and I have a fabulous wit and personality -- trust me if you can't see it. But, I want to be healthy for my daughter. I refuse to drive myself crazy with diets, scales, pre-packaged foods, etc. I eat veggies several times a day, watch my portions, and walk almost every day. I am slowly coming down.

You are doing a huge disservice to define yourself by a size. TRUST ME. Health is important, yes, but don't focus on weight to the point of not living your life.

Edit: The smallest I ever got was a size 14 and I think I was freaking hot. I'm sorry a size 16 isn't good enough for you :(

Weight is very personal, but surely you can understand how hard it's going to continue to be on women if an average sized woman (you) is ashamed to go outside. If it were reasonable, I should be hiding in my closet flogging myself because I'm a size 24.

Yeah I hear ya. Right before I got pregnant, I was at my goal weight. I had just lost like 40 lbs. Then....I got pregnant... and I gained so much weight! My little guy is 1 now and and I still have to more to lose. I totally understand the how you feel uncomfortable. Sometimes I even decide not to go somewhere, because I dont' like what I look like. I do work out, but not as much as I should. I work full-time and when I get home, I just want to hang out with my son and my hubby! If it's nice out we'll go biking or for a walk, but it's been so dang hot here, we don't even want to go outside. UGH. I feel for ya.....I would love to be a size 9 again too. Good luck!

Ugh... I gained 42 lbs with my son and I've lost all of it.. it's just my weight SHIFTED after having the baby and that's what makes me insecure. My hips are wider and I now have a gut. So I weigh the exact same I did as before I got pregnant, but with the shifting of things I feel like my body looks gross. Saggy boobs, little belly yuck.

I'm a size 14, and I'd love to be a size 10 one day lol!

I'm in a size 9 which was the same as my "pre-preganacy" size... but I'm very self consious about my mid-section. I had my baby 3 months ago and having a hard time tightening it back up. When I sit down I get that tummy buldge that over laps my jeans. I've been trying to eat healthy and "engage" my abs when I walk but I don't really have time to actually "exercise." Everyone tells me it's ok since I just had a baby but I'm still insecure and insist on wearing looser style tops to cover the buldge. good luck w/ the marathon!

Well, it took 9 months to gain the weight, I gave myself 9 months to lose it. She will be 9 months old on the 1st, and I weigh less than before I had her. Of course there are those unflattering days, and insecure times, but who doesn't have those?

I just think that no matter what I do, child birth changed my body. Whether it is my stretch marks or the extra lbs. I have someone incredible to show for it, and that cheers me up every time.

Oh my gosh. who isnt insecure after a baby. My little man is 8 mths. and im still holding on to 10 pounds honey. I gained 35 pds. They say that the last 10 or 15 is so hard to come off. Its like your body gets comfortable with that weight. Im serious. But you can do it and you will, just give yourself time. People all the time stress themselves out about their weight and dont realize thats why they arent losing it. STRESS!! lol So keep up the good work and you will do it:)

Yup!!

With my son I lost the baby weight in a month flat, I was so harsh on myself and constantly tired, my hard work wasn't even rewarded after an old lady in a shop muttered to her friend that obviously I'd been starving myself to be my weight that soon after a baby.

I'm keeping more laid back this time, and strap my baby in the jogger in the early evenings and i have a jog, it winds the baby down and I'm loosing weight. Slowly but surely the weight is creeping off, sad to admit but I feel a greater sense of achievement shifting the baby weight than I did after pushing out my baby.

Honestly I think your with the majority of Mom's here. Losing that post pregnancy weight is tough, but it sounds like your going about it the right way...eat right and exercise.

Don't worry about your HS friends, if they just had babies themselves, they may feel the same way.

Good luck with your marathon training!