My dad and i have a rough relationship?

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Long yes, but its fine. Well believe it or not you and i have the same problem. the difference of course I'm 16 and don't have a kid. My dad is a major drunk and has been caught up in drugs for years. The degrading sucks as well i understand how you feel it hurts really bad. Unfortunately my mom won't let me cut him out of my life. To answer your question If I had a kid I would try to keep my dad out of his/her life as much as possible. Putting someone you love through that sucks and you don't want to set bad examples for your children. One day there is a possibility your son will want to meet his grandfather or see him. What you do from there is your choice. I don't think it is bad to keep your son away right now especially since he's young and wouldn't quite understand things yet.

My father is like that too. His venture is that he drinks a nil.5 gallon of whiskey an afternoon or whilst he's off the bottle he must be large dad. truthfully the main suitable factor you're able to do is in the journey that your older sufficient circulate out! My dad never approved of my husband ( we've been married for 22 years now) and it gets incredibly tireing after a together as. i understand you prefer to maintain your dad's love i've got performed that too. My mom died like 3 years in the past and my dad remarried a 300 and sixty 5 days later after he moved his affair of 25 years in to the living house after my mom have been lifeless for 2 months. that incredibly did a job on me and my women. stable luck and my prayers are with you. The ting I had to undergo in suggestions replaced into this replaced into my life and he had his.

you are not wrong. it sounds like you family has issues with alcohol and you don't have to be around that. if they ask you to do things say no and when they ask why be honest. tell them that it always turns into some horrible situation and you don't have the time or energy to go through that anymore. eventually they will either stop (highly unlikely) or they won't invite you anymore. that may hurt but maybe not as much as you are hurting now.

i would suggest going to an al anon group. it's similar to aa, but it's for family members of alcoholics. they may have better suggestions on how to deal with these things having been through it.

Unfortunately you aren't talking about your 'dad', you're talking about your sperm donor. Dads don't treat their children like that. Be a dad (or mom, it's not clear) and treat your son better - don't let him see that kind of lifestyle.

Are you wrong for not having anything to do with someone who wishes you had died at birth? No. You're giving him what he wants - no you. Keep it that way - don't make him unhappy by forcing him to remember that you're still alive. go live your life and be happy.

Sometime you have to step back and say this is not a healthy relationship. I think you need to seperate from him at least for a little while.

I stopped talking to my dad for 6 years for similar reasons, and because of that he really changed and now we have a great relationship and i think its because he finally relized what he was missing.

Maybe you should try to sit your dad down and have a calm talk with him.

If that does not work, I would suggest trying to stay away from him. I know it is harsh for me to say that you shouldn't see him or talk to him, but no one deserves to be treated like that.

Tell him that when he gives up those awful habits and gets his life back on track you will see him again and try to build a relationship back up.

Good luck, I really hope it works out for you!

He has to get rid of those demons when he decides to try, it is not really your responsibility. sux though. :( No, it is fair to keep away from him until he tries to change and apologizes to you. What he said was really shi++y, no I don't blame you one bit...and your bro should charge him with assault, IMO.