Just found out my father crossdresses?

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Every now and then, I run my maiden name through a myspace search because I have a lot of relatives that I don't know very well, so I like to see if they started a page.  So today, I typed it in, and up popped this woman who I'd never seen before ... but the sex said "male".  I clicked on it, and long story short, it is my father.  All of his pictures are of him dressed as a woman.

At first, I laughed, then I cried, and now I'm not sure what to do.  My dad and I aren't very close and haven't been since I was in middle school.  I got married in May; he came to my wedding but was pretty distant ... he's never been rude ... he's just not very communicative and is hard to get a hold of.

I love my dad, even though he hasn't always been there for me.  He looks SO HAPPY in those pictures of him as a woman, and I love it.  I'm just afraid that if I somehow confront him about it, that he'll be angry or embarrassed.  I look at talking to him about it as a possible tool for us to become closer ... I fear that he distances himself because he thinks I'll be judgemental or disgusted, but that's so far from the truth.  I had a strong reaction at first because I had suspected something like this for a while, but forgot about it.  Then to have it pop up in my face unexpectedly was a shock!

Anyway ... the way I see it, I can either befriend him on myspace along with a short note saying I love him, totally support him ... or not bring it up ... I want to be closer to my dad but I don't want to risk him being upset.  He's not the type to be angry, but he is pretty defensive.  Can I get some suggestions please?  Thanks!

Ed F · Accepted Answer

If you were to get in contact with him I would first off let him know that his cross dressing isn't a big deal for you and that you support and love him in anything that makes him happy. By him getting the message on myspace he is gonna know that you know he cross dresses so just continue supporting him and hopefully things go great for you guys. Good Luck!

Anonymous · Answer

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Nicole · Answer

Well if you are worried about confronting him maybe you can send he a message over myspace saying that you don't care how he dresses you will always love him.

OtherGuy · Answer

Hi, Heidi.

Since he has his pictures up in public, I would think he should expect to be noticed from time to time. If it were my choice, I would send him support as you describe.

Best wishes.

Anonymous · Answer

no.. just no.. way too embarassing. i would die if my friends or family found out my deepest darkest secret, if there was one..

z24djp · Answer

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