Should I let the fact my boyfriend doesn't earn much, bother me?

My advice would be to seek premarital counseling. You'll have an impartial person listening to both of you -what you each want from the relationship, strengths/weaknesses, relationship styles etc.......

All I can do is to say that for me personally I'd have to take a LONG hard look at everything. What happens if. once you're married/have a family, you become disabled? Will his income be enough to support you and your children? You're both still young but what about 10 years from now? 20 or more years from now? Will his home still be in a neighborhood you'll want to live in?

I would be very cautious if this were me. It's better to end things now rather than marry and be unhappy/dissatisfied a few years down the road.

I don't want to try to talk you out of a relationship with this guy but please please please look at all of your options. You know what you want from life. Will you be able to find it with this man?

He doesn't sound like he wants to much out of life really. He's not very ambitious and doesn't want more responsibilities.I would sit down and really thing about this one. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? Do you want to be with someone who isn't ambitious about life like you are? Can you truly be happy by being the one providing for a family?

I personally think it should be an equal task. Otherwise you are going to end up being miserable. I don't want to sound like it's all about money because it's not, but if you plan on having kids he will have to get a better job. It's hard now a days for one parent to support a child. It's not easy and that is what I am getting at.

Talk to him and let him know how you feel. If you two want to have a family some day he needs to understand that he will have to find a job that pays more.

Yes, it is important. You want to marry some one with the same morals and values as you have.It is more important that you may think.

If he is satisfied with working a very low wage job in his 30's, he doesn't match up with your values of education and hard work.

Why not ask him how you two would ever support a family and give the best to your children with such a limited wage.Ask him about insurance and savings. What would he do in an emergency ?What about a nice vacation every once in a while ?

Good luck.It's a hard decision when you love some one.

I think if you look deeper, it's not a matter of the money, it's a matter of the drive and ambition which could be problematic. That will show up in things other than employment.

Also, it depends upon how you see your future in terms of whether you want children.

For example, I was the higher income earner, but we discussed well before we were married that I would be a SAHM. We just made it happen on his lower income - we chose to make the sacrifices necessary.

With a financial and ambition disparity, there is always the chance that you might become resentful...

In Australia - the only people who earn $7 per hour are 1st year apprentices! Thats a really low wage and if half his income goes to his mortgage then yes, you should be worried! Together you would really struggle to make ends meet if you were to have a family.

Have you talked to him about your concerns for the future?

Now might be a good time to.

If he can make the payments he needs to then what is the problem?

He owns his house, he owns his car, and has a perfect credit rating sounds good to me.

it $500 is half of what he makes a month then each month he still has $500 left over, I wish I had that left a month, I realize you also need food and clothes and things like that to. But if you are helping then it shouldn't be a problem.

Wow min wage here is $9.50!

hey just make sure you don't let financial worries cause you to lose someone you really love. my husband earns less than me at the moment, but im sooo glad i married him. but he's at uni so hopefully at some stage it'll be more equal.

you should def talk to your boyf about your concerns of supporting a family. maybe he can consider a better paid job for your and your future family's sake? and as for the responsibilities, well if he's gonna be a husband and father he needs to start gettin used to it!

as a muslim i have to add, well we believe, that you shouldnt worry too much about supporting kids, cos God provides for every kid that is born. every child is born with its own sustenance' u just gotta have faith. dont know if you believe in God or not but thought i'd add that in anyway.

good luck!

Honey,Are you guys living together are you married yet? You are young,take it slow,who knows what will happen in the future.You stated that hes your boy friend,not your husband.Do you know if he wants to get married and have kids for a fact?If none of these things exist then why worry about all of these things now.Think about someone elses happiness besides your own.If he likes where his life is now,you can always move on.We only can change ourselves.

when my husband and i first got together he had just graduated collage, gotten kicked out of his apartment for not being able to pay the rent, had a blazer with 200,000 miles and the worst credit score ever. he had a very part time job and could hardly afford to take me out. our first date he had 2 dollars in his pocket. i had to buy my own drink. lol....we've been together for almost 8 years, been married for 2. he does have a better job now and i still make more than he does but it doesn't matter. when you love somebody money shouldn't matter. whats mine is his. whats his is mine...and when he didn't have anything else to give me he gave me his heart. if i had been worried about him making enough money so i wouldn't have to support us then we wouldn't have stayed together past that first date and i would have missed out on getting to marry the most awesome person i have ever met.

so you're the one with the better career and will be the breadwinner, so what? welcome to the 21st century! the gender roles you were raised with are crap! meaningless! if you're the kind of woman who is waiting for a man to support you, then you got the wrong man. but if you're willing to step up to the plate and support him and your family for the most part, then buck up and do it. once your'e married it doesn't matter where the money comes from, it's all pooled mutual funds for both to use.