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Dont feel comfortable about my Girfriend's Gay Guy Friend?

Ok so my girlfriend has this Gay guy friend and they are really good friends and have so much fun when they socialize and stuff.

Now last night I met this guy and he kept hugging,touching and spanking my girfriend in a joking way which started bothering me. Now to make matters worst, he kept running around in his underwear and kept jumping on my girlfriend while we were in bed and they were just laughing and having fun. Then when I was holding her in bed he would jump on and put his hands on her arms at the same time as me which felt really wierd!!!

So I started to doubt that hes completey gay because he once kissed my girlfriend in the past and he does it all the other girls too in a "joking" way. So i started to think he might be kinda bi!! So I spoke to my Girfriend and she assured me that he is a flaming **** and that these guys always act sexual towards women...

Now my girlfriend does think his hot and very fun to be with and that she loves him in a platonic way.

She said that he acts like this towards all other girls in front of their BFs and they are fine, but in my mind he should have been more courteous and not have done so much in front of me. But at the same time him doing all this in front me kinda indicates that he doesnt have anything to be scared of as he is gay!!

Now Im really confused and I don know how to feel about all this and where to draw the line !! Please help me, Thanks =)

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Why is this guy in bed with you two? I mean your bed is your space and BFF of your girl friend or not this guy should not be in your bed or bedroom when you guys are resting or cuddling. I mean ask your girl friend how she would feel if you had a really hot friend who was a girl and was grabbing you and kissing you while she was around. Ask her how she would feel if the roles were reversed. If she says she would be ok with it you may need to find out if you both have the same idea of what kind of relationship you all are in. In the long run the ultimate decision comes down to is it worth it? Whatever you do don't confront the friend because if he is bi he can turn that against you. Confront your girlfriend and have her confront the friend or mediate the conversation between the gay friend and you. after that it's up to your girlfriend to enforce that relationship.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You're saying you don't want certain things to happen, yet you are in bed with this guy and your girlfriend? Come on. Listen to yourself.

    Talk to your girlfriend first. ALONE! Tell her that you don't feel comfortable with him touching her like that. Ask her if she would feel comfortable with a lesbian friend touching you all the time and to jump into bed with the two of you.

    Sometimes it just takes seeing things from the other persons viewpoint.

  • 1 decade ago

    Draw it as you need it.

    Sexual touching in any weird situation can make anyone uncomfortable.

    Tell your girlfriend that when you are together, that you feel it is inapropriate behavior for him to be doing things that make you feel like you are not her boyfriend like he is. Yes, you know he is gay, but seeing someone, anyone toughing her sexually makes you feel like she is sort of walking the line in that just anyone can caress her body. When you feel it should be you she is intimate with. It would bother me too.

    If she wants to be felt up by just anyone, maybe she should be single. You may need someone that is more conservative, or just someone that understands that you want to be the one that makes them happy being intimate.

  • 5 years ago

    some definitely everyone seems to be in no way able to share their sexuality with their family contributors. which you will ought to settle for. Unfortunatly it may placed distance between family members, as in case you could't be who you're, you're below rigidity once you relate on your loved ones. at times even inspite of the undeniable fact that some family members could be greater accepting which you will think. that is a tricky one to make a judgement call on, and attempt to have a competent theory of the implications of sharing this with them. which will help you're making a decision if and once you tell them. you're sufficiently previous to stay your existence as you elect, and in case you have not have been given any gay buddies, then why don't you connect a gay corporation, or attempt to fulfill some gay buddies on line if purely for chat. that could help you be greater gentle with who you're and which you're able to have a existence, a great one by way of ways. you ought to love your self as you're, purely you're able to do this superb, and it is so unusual that we ought to consistently provide plenty theory to our sexuality, and the thank you to navigate existence by way of fact we are slightly different. NO we are actually not different, we in simple terms have a different sexual determination which does not advise we give up to be a typical man or woman doing each and every of the flaws individuals do. Be happy with who you're and the particular existence which you will convey to this worldwide. As you settle for your self, existence will convey you greater those which will additionally settle for you as you're. that usually occurs.

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  • 1 decade ago

    You should go talk to your girlfriend .

    If she's uncomfortable tell her, you just feel uncomfortable about the whole thing -

    and they could still talk , but you just want some distance between them.

    Maybe he's bisexual?

    or maybe she is lying to hide something? :O

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I would tell him to stop touching her. Like tell him to **** off, gay guys always try to do this because they want to fit in. If he doens't stop break his nose . Thank you

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