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saddleSOAR asked in PetsHorses · 1 decade ago

Should I be mad that the worming schedule is off?

Me again. Regarding....mother in law again. So yea she keeps her horse in our pasture. She is concerned because her horse seems to be dropping weight. They all get the same amount of food. Her horse is fed separately per her request. So last night during dinner I mention that it is time to worm the horses. I specifically told her that because they are all in the same pasture I want to make sure they are all de wormed at the same time. I told her that I used strongid last time and they are due for a zimectrin. Again I said that mine are due and they all need to be done at the same time. So she comes over today takes her horse out and worms him. Then comes in and tells me that she couldn't wait. WTF. I mean she didn't even think about it until I mentioned it then suddenly she can't wait for me to get my wormer. Am I overreacting? PS. I order my wormer on line at horse.com so it takes a few days.

Update:

You guys are right. I got angry. I was told that all horses that share a pasture should be wormed at the same time.

I love her, but she is indeed driving me crazy since her horse got here.

So I'll vent. Don't read if you don't like drama. I hate it!

Made me move my gelding because he was bullying her horse. He is in a corral by himself.

Replaced my salt lick because her farrier told her mine was bad. Without talking to me.

Wanted to buy slow feeders so I made some. Insisted the horses were starving because of them. Had my husband remove her horses slow feeder and didn't even tell me.

Accused me of causing an allergic reaction to her horses wound by applying wonder dust. Consulted someone else without my knowledge. I was just trying to help.

Insists that her horse be fed on her schedule and gets all angry if I am late. Yells at my daughter about me not feeding on time, but doesn't say anything to me.

I can't please her. I'm really trying.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    A few days difference between them will not matter.

    I think this woman is doing her best to rankle you and she is winning!

    You married her son so, she has every right to be able to boss you!! (Or so she thinks)

    The way to get to her is to carry on and do your own thing, Just let her get on with it and never let her see that she has got to you. That will be the most upsetting thing you can do to get back at her.

  • charm
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Nah, it doesn't really matter. In an ideal world, they would all get wormed at the same exact time, but a couple of days aren't going to make a huge difference. Technically, if you take fecal samples and get them evaluated, you might find out your horses don't need wormed right now, or that they need different wormer. We just worm consistently on a schedule to be safe, not because the horses will all collapse if they get wormed on different schedules.

    It's not worth the fight with your Mom-in-law, and if her horse is dropping weight, she might well be correct that she needed to get it wormed asap.

    Edit: Ah yes... yes, that would start to get old. It's probably time to talk nicely to your spouse about the fact that you are going to kill your mother-in-law if she keeps it up. Then write up a very clear schedule for everything to do with your horse establishment. Along with costs, actually. If the gentle hint that you have an established method for doing things doesn't get through to her, it might be time to return the favor. If her mare doesn't get along in the pasture with your horses, then put HER in the separate paddock, and let your Mommy-in-law start taking care of her on her schedule. But truthfully, you are probably better off venting here, and breathing deeply the rest of the day. Some things are just really hard to change.

  • 1 decade ago

    I really do not think a few days will make that kinda difference. In laws are tricky creatures. Chose your fights carefully and weigh the after fight with the spouse. I would suggest that you write up a worming schedule and hand it to her. Thank her for being involved in the care of her horse and ask her if she will take care of her horses worming for hereon. If she says yes, then just worry about your own horses. If sounds like you have other issues that are bothering you so don't let the little stuff distract you from whatever the real problem is.

  • 5 years ago

    Stage an "break out" and provide it to any one who will handle it competently. It's the correct factor to do for the reason that she Sounds ...... Not fair. Stealing any one's puppy and giving it away is so fallacious but if the animal is being omitted and abused then you definately have to use a few discretion and perhaps do whatever that might in any other case be immoral and fallacious. Not the whole lot is black and white / this can be a gray main issue.

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  • Sunny
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    Try not to worry to much! A few days between will be ok :)

    See this is why I have no contact with my mother-in-law!

    She might be wrapped up in her own little world and not even realise she is rubbing you the wrong way. I have not seen any of your other posts bout her and your situation though so I may be very wrong!

    Smile grit your teeth and bite your tongue, someone needs to keep the peace and it might need to be you...

    Good luck I know how horrible the out-laws can be.

  • 1 decade ago

    A few days won't make much difference overall.

    Your MIL's horse may need teeth floated.

    Check out this link... there's newer data on how to rotate dewormers.

  • 1 decade ago

    You're overreacting.

    Edit: The one to handle this is your mother-in-law's son - your hubby. Have him tell her that you have your schedule and your rules, and that she has to fit into them. He owes it to both of you to handle this, and he's the only one who can.

    If this goes on, you and your mother in law will both be unhappy and increasingly resentful of each other. It will spoil the relationship with each other, and will overflow into your husband's relations with each of you.

    He needs to step up to the plate.

  • Jenni
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    you're overreacting. how does her worming her horse affect your horses' schedule?

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