Is it normal for a man to consume himself around work all the time and have no emotions for you ?

This is not normal. At all. i suggest you talk to him about this. It's "great" that he has such determination to become a teacher, and it's unfortunate about his ailing mother. But really, the best thing to have is a companion there besides you through it all. He's your husband for cryin' out loud; you're his wife. He ought to value the love you have for him, and he should realize that you are there for him.

No matter what he's gonig through, or how he's feeling, he should be "expressing" (not really the right word) his love for you. Which includes the opposite of what he's doing right now. It can be difficult to "balance" everything, but you ought to be just as important to him as everything else going on.

So, again, i would say you need to talk to him about all of this, because this isn't a normal thing. No matter what he's going through or what he's feeling, he ought to realize that he has someone there to love him and that this someone is there to support him. And if he's not going to outright express his love and appreciation, or put just an equal amount of priority / attention on her as he is whatever else is going on in his life, that's not a good person to be with, if you ask me, and i mean that in no offense.

No its not, but sometimes people get so caught up into what they're doing that they lose focus and forget what there priorities are. Perhaps you should have a chat with him and give him a subtle reminder that your just as important as his career and mother.

Bananas, I think your problem is your selfish. It's all about you! How did you get caught in the middle? Wtf! Dude, your husband is probably worried sick about his mother and you can think about is yourself. Maybe you should be attending to him more. You husband is also working hard to become something. Your problem is your all about you. Attend to him, ask him how he feels, do things for him for no reason, hug him, he'll appreciate it and things will get better or he doesn't like you anymore because your to selfish to attend to him in a time of need. Sorry this was harsh but seriously your insensitive!

You'll have to talk to him, he might not even realize.