My in laws treat my son like crap, but my daughter gets spoiled?

Your in-laws sound like a bunch of snobby, no good, idiots.. (No offense lol)

If your husband accepts your son as his own then his family should also.. The differences they make between the two is wrong and they are only makin' complete fools of themselves..

When it comes to family, your in-laws should be smart enough to know that family doesn't have to be so literal..

By their theory, if your sister in law is married - that means they should and can treat her husband the same way because her husband isn't REALLY family..

I think the stopping gifts all together could be a good idea.. The little boy is your daughter's brother and when she gets older she's goin' to see how they treat him differently and could possible resent your husband's side of the family because of it..

So after reading your umm..question? I must say i didn't quite get what you were asking..It was a bit lengthy and seemed more like a rant to me.. Anyways, I think it is childish that you are keeping score and calling his 5-7 y/o's greedy..How does he feel about this?! They are kids they always compare..Also grandparents always try and out do the parents,the whole spoil thing. Does the grandma have a relationship with the mother? Well when they are one they grow out of clothes/toys a lot faster then the older kids,not saying its fair but it is the truth.. Question your parents do they do more for your child then his? maybe the other grandma is just trying to make sure they get as much..just a thought Not to be rude but if the tables were turned would you honestly feel the same way? Just food for thought good luck with the situation what ever that might be I don't quite see the problem..

Whoa!! The good thing is, your husband is on your side. If he's accepted your son as his own, your in laws shouldn't have a problem... If they do, they need to grow up.

It's not only fair, but absolutely necessary for you to keep an equal status between them, and it's your right as a mother to determine how you want people to treat you and your family! If they don't act accordingly, then they should stay away.

You sister in law really said that? What hateful people they are. You are not wrong. The least they could do is buy him a token gift but to not bring anything at all is just hateful. Stand your ground on this one and let the family know if they continue on like this they will not be invited to celebrations.

Your husband isn't torn up enough if he's letting this continue. Anyone with a pulse knows this can be damaging to kids, and he's overdue to issue an ultimatum that they get treated equally or they don't get seen at all.

Stand your ground and let them get angry.

For them to not consider you son family and to treat him unequally - well that just shows how sorry they are for purposely hurting a child.

Your husband also needs to stand beside you on this one.

Remind your sister-in-law that you don't need to be blood related to be family.

It's YOUR family, you are ALL family. Make it clear that if they are not going to treat the kids equally, they are not welcome at your house. If they do show up on holidays/occasions, ask at the door if they have anything for your son, if not, tell them "goodbye" and close the door.

Oh my god!!!! I would tell them to go to hell. Your husband needs to tell them that they are all family. They sound cold hearted supposed family or not your son does not deserve that.

F*CK your inlaws tell them if they do not accept your son as part of the family then stay the hell away

sorry your son is left out but YOU did this too him if you could keep your legs closed you wouldnt be in this mess.this child is not related to them at all nor is he related to your husband no matter how much you want him to play "daddy" he NEVER will be