What do you think of a 49 year old man who doesn't know he can have both a friend and a girlfriend?

Uhh, that is very strange. If this was a new boyfriend I would say dump him fast, he has issues.

But you say you have been together for six years? So what do you think is going on inside his head that would make him say stupid things like that? Something is going on, that seems obvious.

Have you tried talking to the friend? You could invite the two of them over for dinner, or out to dinner together. Maybe that would break open the situation for you, so some clarity could enter the picture.

If I were you, I would be sooo tempted to turn the tables on him and not show up when and where you promise to show up, to demonstrate how it feels to be stood up. However, playing games usually isn't the way to get anything worthwhile accomplished.,

Also, if I were you, I would want to be checking to see if it really is this friend he is seeing. This sudden switch in behavior after six years would make me, frankly, suspicious that he has found someone else.

Of course, it could be a couple of other things going on inside his head too... for instance, he could have been thinking about marriage and then panicked, and now he is backpedalling frantically and driving you away to a safe distance.

Or maybe his friend is one of those guys who says stuff like "Oh, I see you have to check in with your jail mistress.. you are really whipped dude, you poor love slave, you." and stuff like that. Most guys have a really hard time standing up to being accused of being p***y whipped.

I hope you can work it out diplomatically, and preserve your relationship, and he can keep his friend. But really, these signs aren't so great.

Good luck.

Money. Or the older girl is assembly a few want the more youthful guy has that his spouse isn't. While you're well peers with this girl, you're no longer seeing the everyday realities in their marriage or the person's courting with the older girl. What is going on within the bed room will also be very distinctive from what the external international sees. I am worried that you just location the sort of heavy importance on appears. It's just a little shallow - there may be extra to a individual than what type of dermis they have got or how a lot they weigh.

Sounds to me like mr 49 year old is a very immature being and in need of counseling for his issues. The very fact that when he doesnt bother to phone you when hes going to be late or a no show is indicative of someone who cares for nothing or no one but himself. Then to yell at you over something he himself has done indicates he has an abusive character. You need to drop this deadweight and get with someone who truly cares for you and for your feelings. This will be the best thing you can do for yourself. Who needs this immature child? He is not going to grow up.

Your man is speaking loudly with his actions. It's time to break up with him, as hard as it is. He has decided (friend or not) that you don't deserve the courtesy nor respect anymore. He may be trying to break up with you but doesn't have the guts, so he's trying to piss you off enough to do it for him. You don't deserve to be treated like this. Remember, we tell people how we want to be treated. You've made yourself clear how you feel. He doesn't care, his actions are speaking volumes. Don't be a victim, let go.

Sounds like a midlife crisis in full swing. He probably thought the chances of getting drunk and laid were really good hanging out with his friend or he would have called. He is looking for excitement, not commitment. I would suggest you pass on this one and look for someone a little more reliable.

I've no answer for you except that this is the very reason that I'm 49 and single. I won't put up with that kind of crap from anyone.

If he cares about you he sure doesn't show it! Life is to short to put up with his bull**** . Im sure you can find a better relationship. Loose him fast.

i think you need to leave him because i think he is having the ALMOST 5 0 Mood swings . anybody who is that demnted needs some time alone

Sounds like an *** hole. You're probably about that age too? You don't have much time left before you're no longer desirable, so go find someone worth it while you still can!

sounds normal ms jealous