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My daughters father threatened to seek joint custody...a year with me and a year with him. HELP!?

My daughter is almost 5. We were never married. He left the home to work in another state when she was 3 months old. The first year he saw her approx. 7 or 8 times, and has seen her about once a year since then. She doesn't know him at all. We live in SC and he resides in PA. Also, he has a history of drug abuse (Marijuana, Cocaine, and Ecstasy) as well as alcohol. Please give advice. I am a single mother who just bought a home (I'm 26) I'm working and going to school. My daughter is my world.

Update:

I am not keeping her from him. He lives in Pennsylvania. He doesn't keep a working phone number, but when he does come down...maybe once a year, I ALWAYS let him see her. He has not given me any money at all towards her in 3 years since she was about 1 year and 10 months. Obviously, I was unaware of his drug use. This is one of the reasons we parted ways. His name IS on the birth certificate.

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  • OtherGuy
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago
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    Is his name on the birth certificate?

    Can he prove paternity?

    I think he is either trying to scare you or he is just misinformed.

    It seems very unlikely any court would go along with such a scheme.

    Has he been paying child support all these years?

    You may have additional leverage.

    Best wishes.

  • Bree
    1 decade ago

    Well..if you're keeping your daughter from him, you shouldn't. Is that why he's threatening to seek joint custody? Allow him to see her but, obviously, with limitations that are appropriate for you, him, and the child.

    Also, if he does try to get joint custody of her, just bring up his history with drugs. I'm sure they'll want to drug test him. But don't threaten him with that because that'll give him a chance to get cleaned up before testing. Once they see that he's got those issues, he won't win.

  • Robert C
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    I live in Canada and had the same problem,my separated

    wife tried for custody,I went to the court house and

    there advise was to get a childrens lawyer,they investigate every thing

    my two kids,their school and community centre my job, bank and church

    she was paid for by the province.we went to court and after all

    that was done I was awarded full custody

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Chances are you will get custody of the child, but I wouldn't know for sure. Consult a lawyer

    Source(s): good luck!
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  • ?
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    you should have thought about that long before you two engaged with one another intimately.. he is also the parent....

    sorry, it does take two to tango... and the courts will appease his request...

    only if he abuses the child... will there be potential for any countersuits on this custody.

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