How to resolve living situation conflict?

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My fiancé and I are getting married this coming May, and neither of us want to budge on where we want to live. We both want to live in different towns.

I want to live in my town (of course), somewhere that is off to ourselves. I mean, my family /is/ here, but I don't want to live right on top of them. My job is here, and there are various groceries stores and a Wal-Mart (major for me, ha ha) around. It's always where I envisioned living.

He wants to live in his town (again, of course) near his entire family. His parents are looking into buying a plot of land for us that is pretty much in the epicenter of family matters. I mean, I can already tell our life would be like an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond. This place is also 20 - 30 miles from my work and any type of retail / grocery store, and I just like the convenience of already being around all that jazz.

How do we resolve where we're going to live without one or the other being miserable? At this point, it seems like there is no winning. /o:

rhonda · Accepted Answer

how about somewhere in the middle? I'd be afraid that his parents want to buy land, so you will live where they wantt you to be, that could be bad later! in many ways!do you live together now???? if so cant you stay there for awhile? why not do some house hunting then when you find a few places(between the two towns, you take him to look at them, he may fall in love with one. you better settle this before the wedding, as it may cause your life to become something your not happy with, then well, things could get worse!

John Q Citizen · Answer

To be honest this should have been discussed before marriage was.  Your lives are your own, not your families'.  Split the difference.  Find a location that is of equal distance from each family (that also has shopping available :)

Invisible Pink RN · Answer

Flip a coin -
Rock, paper, scissors -
Pick from a hat -
Find somewhere in the middle between the two -
Draw straws -

These might seem ridiculous suggestion but you need to figure this out somehow -

However you decide to hash this out I wish you the best of luck - and congrats

Dimitar A · Answer

Move into the town that his half-way between the two towns.

most important word is half-way.  You're going to do a lot of half-way in a marriage so might as well start with where you are going to live.

Congratulations and Good Luck.

kornfield · Answer

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