My best friend is better than me in every way ...help?

luckily you have control over a few of those things..

you can work out if you really want to lose weight

you can go on accutane if you have SERIOUS acne problems

and study a little more

but you should become happy with yourself first.. or get a new best friend..

i had the same issue in high school.. i was this girls shadow and she always had all the attention from boys and girls.. then one year i decided to make a major transformation, i became a cheerleader and dyed my hair bleach blonde.. i was still a little thicker and not as big chested as she was but it really boosted my confidence

i know it sounds really superficial but it worked for me.. and i no longer live in her shadow

or am friends with her because i realized she was was aware of my flaws too and used them to play up her image ..

anyways..

do something that will make You feel good about YOU.

Never compare yourself to others. You are good in your own right.

You can improve some things about yourself, but only if you want them, not to compare yourself to others.

If you want to get rid of the acne, go to a good dermatologist. If you want to lose weight, ask your friend to join a gym with you, and find a diet that will be one you can stick with. Not a fad diet that says you will lose weight fast. Try Nutrisystem, Jenny Craig, or something like that. Not everyone can be an "A" student. Your talents are probably in something else. Not every successful person in the world graduated with a 4.0 average.

Your problem is low self esteem. I am going to include some sites to help you work on that:

http://www.wikihow.com/Develop-Self-Esteem

http://www.ehow.com/how_5309210_feel-good-yourself... one else can love you, if you don't love yourself. Just remember that you will never have a healthy relationship until you feel good about you! Confidence is the key!!!

1) what makes you cry 2) your personality 3) what you look like without makeup 4) what makes you happy 5) inside jokes 6) share a favorite food which is a tradition to eat every time you meet 7) your dreams for the future 8) your flaws and weaknesses 9) your strengths and talents 10) they should actually care about all these things this is my opinion only!

I know how you feel. I like this girl and she always has many guy friends and wanted to become one of those close guy friends for her so i can have a chance to ask her out. I think I'm fat and not good enough to ask her out and I doubt she'll ever notice me and think how "hot" i am. So now I am running like a **** and lost 25 pounds lolz. Don't compare yourself to others. Be who you are and try the best in everything. Study harder, exercise more and lose some weight, shower more often, and wash your face more often. I'm pretty sure you can be the "perfect" girl and who knows, she might even try to be like you in the future. Good luck.

Do meditation, take help of yoga(its also great if you want to get in shape and get rid of acne), rediscover yourself.. when you have the inner peace.. you ll rather laugh on all this things.

and I know this could be the most gay answer probably but it works. lolz

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Why do you take your mom for granted??? Ask your mom to study some psychology to know how shes ruining your life(Im sure she loves you but maybe shes a little ignorant) the next time she tries to compare you with her. And 80 guys out of 100 don't like skinny girls. That way you have better chances then your friend. Just enjoy life. Bang in with all of your might whatever interests you. The world belongs to those who claim it. ;) Thats it.

I know how you're feeling. I went through the exact same thing, and it isn't easy. we were incredibly alike, we had so much fun together, no matter what we did or where we were, she was my sister I never had ! but I always felt envious of her because I felt like all of our friends loved her more than they loved me. i also envied her lack of self doubt, and her consistent confidence in herself. she had such grace and comfortableness with herself that i wish i had....and that was it. that was why I had all of this envy inside of me. it's because I was never fully secure with who I was. I had not yet seen MY beauty. i focused on her beauty, and neglected to see my own. that's the problem with comparing yourself to someone else. maybe it was because we were so similar, that it almost felt like competition for me to be my own person & not be in her shadow. whatever the reason was, i felt insecure in her presence. so what i'm trying to say is, you have to love yourself & be comfortable in your own skin. Look at her. talk to her. yes, she is beautiful in her own ways, and You Are Beautiful In Your Own Ways, too =) she is not any better than you, and you are not better than her. if you can tell yourself that & just embrace the unique and amazing person that YOU are instead of focusing how her, your insecurities will go away and you will better enjoy her company because you enjoy your own company. i'm sorry this is so long lol I just had a lot to say =) also, i know your mom saying those things isn't helping. something I want you to do the next time your mom says something like that is: "you know what mom ? I am my own person. i don't need to do what she does". stand up for yourself. the more you tell yourself something, the more you'll believe it. take care*

i kinda had the same problem... my best friend since like 3rd grade we considered each other brothers. well one day we got into an argument and i got pissed off and walked drove away. well 4 months later we started talking and i explained how i was feeling... i hated being his "shadow" but now were good no problems.

and if you're jealous of her and want to be like her then change but i dnt reccomend it cause she could notice it and break youre freindship so its youre call.

explain how u feel or change. but from my experience, try to keep your freindship for as long as possible

I know what you mean, parents really help, huh? Separate yourself from her for awhile and focus on yourself. You don't need to be just like her, that's incredibly boring. And no one is perfect. You just have to work what you got, you know?

Interesting question!

your obviously self concious about yourself. focus on you and not your friend , make your self feel better like changing your hair etc it doesnt matter whos nicer looking than who its about feeling good about yourself.