Is this just a guy thing?

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My fiance takes forever to answer me when i talk to him.  He will be sitting on his computer and i will ask him something.  He will just sit there like he didnt even hear me, and finally when im about to repeat what I said he will respond.  Then alot of times he will give one word answers or just act like he doesn't give a crap what i've said.   Is this just a normal guy thing?  If not, why does he do this?  

I've asked him about it, and he says that it isn't me, he is just busy and can't multi-task, but it still bugs me.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It is a guy thing.  In fact is is one of our most guarded secrets.  Guys evolved to only listen to the important stuff that women say.  It is called selective hearing.  Guys don't care about 90% of what our girls talk about, we just nod and look directly at them like we are listening but we are not.  There is nothing you can do about it is in out DNA.

skyhawkgraduate · Answer

Work with me here, I don't have all the info I need.  What is he busy doing.  Is he working?  Playing games or goofing off?  If he is working, then you might want to let him work, if it is serious.  If he is not working, then he may MAY, MAY, be chatting with other people, and maybe other women, I don't know, do not take this seriously.  But this is a sign.  Try suggesting that you go out to dinner.  Then talk there.  Or make him a nice dinner and talk with him there.  But if he is working, doing stuff for his work, then you need to lay off.  But if this is all the time, on or off the computer, go see a counselor for communication work.  If that doesn't work out, then maybe you might want to consider marriage counseling and go from there.  Hope this helps.

jaxtastic · Answer

definitely just him not being able to multi task.  I am used to zoning out kid's voices from my job (the love to bug me for no reason, I'm a cashier at a skating rink), so he is probably just so focused on whatever he's doing that he's just not paying attention.

Anonymous · Answer

this is my answer... im not going to tell you how to run your life. if i give you an answer and you listen to it and it ruins your life.... thats just gonna be bad. when i ask questions on here... i do actually think about what the people say and what im doing right now is listening to the river flows into you http://us.mg4.mail.yahoo.com/dc/launch?.gx=1&.rand=1gkrf81f5n5lf and if you like twilight they have a version with a soft conversation between edward and bella... but thats not really the point. the point is you think while you listen to the song and if you like music it'll really help :(

Anonymous · Answer

You said "...im about to repeat what I said he will respond."
Be more patient and maybe don't bother him while he's on computer.

? · Answer

Guy-thing. Don't think it's only you... it's just what we do.

...and don't get too upset, women have a lot of faults, too.

PINKDaisy · Answer

MAYBE HE JUST DOES NOT WANT TO TALK TO YOU , TELL HIM WTF , ARE YOU BUSY OR WHAT AND IF SO JUST HANG UP AND IF HE CALLS BACK DO THE SAME TO HIM

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