is 16 years old too early for sex ?

Rebecca, if you need to ask the advice of strangers on such a vitally important and personal decision then, yes, you are to young.

This is a very important milestone in both a girl's and boy's life and not one to be decided by others. YOU are the only one who can decide when you're ready. It's not decided by average age or if all your friends have already done it or that your significant other loves you. It's decided by how YOU feel inside. Any doubts, any whatsoever, is a warning that the time is not yet right.

Don't worry about losing him, if he truly loves you he will understand your hesitation and not push even though it's difficult for him. If he's a virgin, this is probably just as difficult a step for him to make. Don't give in to peer pressure; it's your body, emotions and future that will be involved not someone else's. There's also nothing wrong with or to be ashamed of by being an older virgin. It actually shows maturity, restraint, self respect, and the ability to know who you are and what you want.

You really need to think on this and when the time does come, please be sure you take the mature steps of being up to date on birth control methods. I wish you the very best whatever you decide.

Edit: If it means anything, I was 22 because even though I loved, the guy was just never the right one. Then, when I found him we were together for 2 years before having sex as neither of us felt ready for such a big step and all the responsiblities involved..

Well mentally you still developing like the front lobe of you brain that help with long term consciouses is still developing and will only reach 90% at age 18, 100% in early 20's

and how long have you two been dating? any guy can say he loves you and be with you forever but proving it is harder

I would say be in a serious committed relationship for a year if you have not and wait until your BOTH a 100% ready for ALL that comes with sex.

so think about this and talk about it with you bf. Make sure Both of you are a 100% ready have a plan and a back up plan for the worse

1. Why do you want to take it to the next level now?

2. How long do the two of you plan to stay together?

3. Are you prepared for the emotions you might feel afterward?

4. Have you talked about condoms?

5. Are you prepared with two forms of birth control?

6. Have you talked about what happens if you get pregnant?

7. Do you understand sexually transmitted diseases?

8. Are both of you absolutely sure that neither one of you has been with anyone else sexually in any way?

NO protection is a 100% and even the best can fail( protection is better than nothing) but having no sex is better than protection.

It only takes one time to get pregnant or an std

http://www.sexinfo101.com/

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/

I encourage to wait until you out of high school so you not have to risk or worry about risking you basic education.

I'm 19 a virgin with a bf ( virgin too) dating for 19 months and still going. my bf said he is ready when i am and will wait until I'm a 100% or more not matter how long it takes

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First of all I think that all of those ages are too young. The reason why people say that they want to save sex untill they get married is because they know they love that person..and they vowed to be together..so they KNOW they will PROBABLY be together for a long time...if not forever. Sex is not a game..its nothing that you just do when you think you are old enough. Its something you save for when you are SURE you love that person.

Also has he been tested? You don't know what STDs he could have.

And yes 16 is way to young in my opinion. I mean some people do it anyway...idc about them. But someone needs to be smart and save it untill you get a ring.

You are so responsible to think about this before doing it! KUDOS!

I know that having sex means that you are taking your relationship to a new level- and I get that...

Having sex at a young age has so many risk factors. The only 100% sure way that you will NOT get pregnant is to obstain. You can get pregnant during your first time. I know you love him, but what will happen to your relationship if you are pregnant? At 16 it changes your whole life... and it isnt just you that is pregnant- it is your family, your BF, his family- and this all can change your life! Your future baby deserves more than a 16 year old mother!

Wait. Please wait. You can love each other- and be together- but chances are that you can also change the course of your life.

First of all, yes you may really love each other. But you can't really expect him to love you forever. If he is over 18 he could get into a lot of trouble. You don't want that to happen do you? 16 is about the average age for girls to lose their virginity. That doesn't mean its the right time for you. If you do decide to do it, use protection. You can't trust anyone to keep you safe from diseases but yourself. Having sex will change your relationship. Sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. Remember that once you do it, you can never undo it.

Yes, I think so.

I am 19 years old right now, and at 16 I remember asking myself the exact same thing. I don't have the same boyfriend as I did then, since we decided to go to different colleges, but I definitely felt the same as you did!

I think the best thing is to wait. You might love him, but having sex isn't going to do anything to your relationship right now. This sounds cliche and I probably sound mom-ish, but it really is way too young. Just enjoy your relationship right now! Enjoy it before college comes along (long distance relationships are rly hard to maintain!). I would say just wait until you are with him for a GOOD couple of years so you get to know him a lot better.

This sounds cliche too (sorry!) but if he truly loves you he will wait. (:

You're not getting a drivers license, or voting, or drinking, it depends on how you feel. I don't know how long awhile is, and it might be puppy love, or hormones. A factual answer is that in a poll of teenagers a good number of those who've had sex say they wish they had waited. My advice you only get one first time, ask yourself if you do this and the relationship doesn't work out will you regret it? Will you wish you had waited? Also with teenage hormones and the thrill of being in love, get on the pill or carry condoms, talk to your boyfriend about contraceptives and STDs. This talk is not going to be a fun one but its necessary, and another way to to know if you are ready is that if you can't talk to him about this you probably shouldn't sleep with him. One more, are you both prepared if you DO get pregnant?

ask yourself if 16 is too young to have a baby or have an un curable STD because that is the real risk and responsibility involved...I am 22 and I believe that i am too young to be having sex to give u some perspecitive. i am not a virgin, but as I get wiser my morals and standards for myself and the lives of those i would be responsible for increase. love does not = sex sex = baby (sometimes but u cant control when so all it takes is one time) so think about your logic and be safe honey!! better to loose the V-card to someone you love than a random so i give u props there...

Well, in my opinion, I think that you should be able to have sex at any age, as long as you've had a talk with your parents about what it is and everything.But first you need to think about him, is HE ready to have sex? Because, what if you decide you are going to do it, and he isn't ready. It's not just about you wanting it, you should maybe talk to your boyfriend about it, and see how he feels. Then, if he agrees, great! If he doesn't, maybe he isn't just comfortable yet. I really hope this answer helps.

My cousin was 16 when she thought she was in love and ready to have sex. She now has 2 kids and she just turned 18. You be the judge.