My cosleeping, night waking, night eating kindergartner?

I would be tired of that too. Have you ever read the baby whisperer/toddler whisperer books? They have a situation for a situation similar to yours (I can't remember which volume I have both). Anyway the thing your daughter said about sleeping alone brought it to mind because the first step is to get your child a "lovey" for example my son has a stuffed elephant that he can't sleep without ( I bought an extra just in case) I'd start with getting her attached to a "lovey" so she has something she loves, that is comforting to her.

Once she has a lovey you can work on moving her to her own bed. Also, a big point of this seems to be her understandable jealousy of her brother. Would it be possible to move him out of your bed too, even if it's only to one of those cosleeper bassinet things that goes right next to you?

If none of those things work (I don't know if this is an option) but my little sister was having a terrible time sleeping in her own bed (particulare since my brother had just been born and was sleeping with my dad and step-mom). We happened to adopt a dog when we were going through this, and Toto solved the problem by jumping into my sisters bed and sleeping with her. It was such a special thing that the dog slept with her that she just bragged about that and stopped complaining. Getting my brother to sleep in his own bed was much harder, I'd reccomend getting your son a lovey or something too.

Naturally it's always hard to give suggestions not knowing your child, but speaking as a mother of 2 grown children and 5 grandchildren, I suspect your little girl is feeling a little jealous that some of the attention that she is used to getting is now being diverted to her newborn brother. I know this must be hard for you, because from your writing it sounds like she is the center of your world. She can still be the center of your world, but just in a little different way now. It is imperative that she learn there are certain requirements for her now being the "Big" sister. Be firm about her responsibilities to the family, like sleeping through the night in her own bed for starters and being respectful of others. It will be hard in the beginning, but I'm convinced that she will be happier in the long run with mom in control instead of herself.

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I am out of my mind just thinking of all that night waking business. I have a 2 year old that started slipping into bed with us a few months ago and as the story goes it only got worse. He would demand drinks and at first i would trot in the kitchen and get him a sippy cup just for him to be quiet and go to sleep and not deal with the rigamoro of correcting the problem. But after a short time of this that got really , really old. So instead of giving him sippy cups i just would take him back to bed with him getting screaming mad at times and just keep being firm with me and telling him he cant have drinks in the middle of the night all the time and he would pee the bed (something he understands), but basically just so he would stop his crutch of needing it to go to sleep again, and after a couple of nights of that then he gave up on the whole get me a drink issue. He still slips into bed with us and if he goes right to sleep and doesnt flip flop around and talk outloud then he can stay but if he has a hard time going back to sleep i tote him back to his own bed. He may get mad and holler around but when i get firm with him and plant him back in bed a couple times he either stays or else when he comes back to bed with us he goes right to sleep instead of bothering us. I am wondering what will happen when his baby brother gets here in a couple weeks or less. I have no clue how it will work but i am sure we'll somehow develop a routine. I might have to get back into making him sleep in his own bed and his own room all night again cuz he used to do that up until the last couple months. That will be a lot more work but i am sure it will be possible if its waking up our baby cuz i cant think of how it would be waking up to do night feedings and then waking up unnecessarily for things a toddler can get over and learn to sleep thru the night in his room again. Good luck. You aren't crazy.

You can not provide her some thing within the core of the night time. She demands to be trained the penalties of her movements, or inactions. Make definite that she is consuming healthful, nutritious meals in order that she is not missing the vitamins. Don't provide her a snack inside one hour of dinner, in order that she will likely be hungry for dinner. It's an additional tale if she crashes for a snooze simply earlier than dinner on a rather busy day. Then, if she wakes up round nighttime hungry, you can not blame her. Give her a work of toast with peanut butter. Make definite she will get away from bed and sits on the desk then brush her tooth. She will likely be groggy ample to return to mattress afterwards. Of direction, you're going to be shot the next day to come.

YOU are the parent so stop letting your daughter tell you what to do! Put her in her own bed and be firm and dont give in. She may cry and holler for awhile but eventually she will see that she has to stay in bed. You should also start putting your son to sleep in his crib so he can use to it NOW instead of having the same problem 4 years from now. If you dont break, they will learn.

I think someone needs to stay with your child in her room with her until she falls asleep and when she wakes up, i think someone (whether it be you or your husband) needs to get up and go in there with her until she falls asleep again...eventually she will get to where she doesn't wake up in the middle of the night...i am dealing with the same thing...well kinda, my almost 4 year old has co-slept her whole life and i finally have her now to where she will go to sleep in her own bed but somehow in the middle of the night she ends up with me....also my almost two year old has started wanting to sleep with me too. we just changed her from a crib to a toddler bed cuz she was climbing out of the crib and wouldn't stay in the bed....so my best advice is try to keep her in her bed at all costs...even if you have to spend the majority of the night with her in her room....also if she doesn't want to be in there because she's scared of monsters, (this was one of my eldest's concerns) take a squirt bottle and fill it with water and tell her it's monster spray and let her squirt it where the monsters are to keep them away...i know that wasn't a problem you were having, but i threw that in there just in case! lol best of luck cuz i know this situation sucks