Social anxiety and social phobias in school?

I used to be like that in middle school.

I got over it.

U seriously need to talk to ur doctor. u also need to get some self confidence in urself. Breathe, learn to love urself, look around so ur not feeling scared so much. Try doing all the things above an it will help u improve, surely. If u don't u will never get anywhere. Don't woory abt what otehrs think or are doing , focus on getting better and doing what u want like going to the bathroom, or buy something at the cafe.

But seriously talk to ur doctor or a school counselor or trusted, mature adult there nothing to be embarrassed abt, an ur not alone in this you know. Things will only improve if u try an want them to so take that stEp ASAP.

:)

also drugs an alcohol or tryinmg to be kewl and mean will NOT help u u any way!!!!!!

I have somewhat the same problems. Like I don't like getting up during class because I over analyze how I walk and how I appear when I'm walking and if I'm walking correctly. I hate when I drop things because I get super embarrased even though It's something as simple as a pencil. My face gets hot and I feel really nervous thank goodness my skin tone is too dark to blush, I'd die if I did. I hate walking down the hall way because I feel as if people are staring at me picking out every flaw. I don't like entering the bathroom when lots of people are in there but I do go in it when it's not so crowded. I normally spend my lunch in the library but I feel embarrassed going in there everyday. I can't effectively talk to people which makes me lack friends. I have 2 friends total in school and neither of them have my lunch shedule. I draw blanks, say stupid things and I'm sure people think I'm boring and weird. My teacher actually told me I'm weird once, I don't think she knew how much It would hurt me. I do that thing to were I constantly think about what I just did and how stupid I must of sounded and looked.

I want to see a therapist and possibly take meds but I' waiting for my next doctor's appointment to bring this up to her, but I'm anxious about telling her. The last time I saw her I was going to tell her but I got so scared and I had that butterfly in stomach sensation you have when you're on like rollercoasters so I didn't tell her but afterwards I felt stupid for not telling her because I know I'd rather get help then live like this.

I don't think medication has to be the answer nor is alcohol the answer. It won't happen over night but you can make slow but steady steps towards overcoming this. First off realize that it's normal not to be a social butterfly. Some people prefer to have a small network of friends like me, it is NORMAL to be nervous in certain situations, it is NORMAL to be different.

You sound like you want to change though. The only way to overcome fear is to face it head on. you HAVE to face it. Talk, say something. Ask. Just do it. Even if your are shaking and nervous when doing it, just do it. You have to. If you don't you'll never overcome it.

So don't think of doing this as something you'd like to do. YOU HAVE TO DO THIS!

It's a requirement, not a desire. VIEW it like that, and results will happen slowly.

Well im assuming that since youre still in school, youre not old enough to drink, so i wouldnt do that. What i would do, is take a deep breath and try to relax...when i have to give speeches in front of crowds, do training with many people, etc, i just try and breath slow and relax. Its stressful dealing with lots of people, and you are not the only one who has this problem...what i like to do is think, "even if i make a fool of myself, how much is it going to matter tommorow? What about next week? And in 5 years?" Usually the answer is it wont matter...thats why i try to not sweat the small things...and also, i like to talk about it with someone....im 24, and not ashamed to talk to my mom about something thats bothering me...or friends, or whoever..theres always someone willing to help, believe it or not! Good luck to you!

I always have social anxiety. What I do when I have a TON of anxiety is drink. It melts it away...like a warm summer breeze...

ok sorry...sort of drunk right now....

but seriously. I have the same problem as you. I know it is hypocritical of me to say this however, you really need to get over it. We BOTH need to get over it. Others don't give a crap about stuff like that so why should we? In fact, other people probably think less of us because we act this way. What do you think? Please just get over it...you'll be better off :)

Alcohol is not the way. Your life will spiral out of control. You need to see a doctor or better yet a psychologist. They can prescribe you medication that will change your life.

just take a deep breath. and eat with friends, or eat outside if you can. relax none of this stuff lasts forever.