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? asked in Social SciencePsychology · 1 decade ago

Am I Reacting Strangely?

Okay, so Friday afternoon I was coming home from college and I got into a wreck. Basically, I was going south on a green light. A Prius was going north on the green light. Someone ran their red light and hit the Prius and slammed it into me. I was the only one hurt -- and not even badly enough to go to the hospital -- but my car was totalled.

I almost started driving away because my car was still running but then I realized that was illegal so I stopped and just sat there with my foot on the brake. Then a guy who witnessed the wreck started talking to me but I couldn't hear him so I turned off my car because my radio was too loud. He said I was bleeding -- which I could tell already -- but that the cops were coming and I shouldn't move.

Then I looked at the other two cars and saw how destroyed they were and I was like, "Oh, sh!t. I hope they didn't f#ck up my car." The guy looked at it and said that it looked like I was going to get a new car.

So I climbed out and looked at the other two cars. Then, when I saw my car, I burst into tears. It's demolished. After I turned it off, it would never turn on again and everything's broken.

I still wanted to drive it, though. Now, my parents are making me drive their cars to get to school and I'm terrified of driving their cars. I feel like I would be fine if my car was still driveable but it's not so that's not an option. Plus, weirdly enough, I cry every time I look at my car or even think about it.

It's not that I was hurt or anything. It's not even that the wreck frightened me all that much. It's entirely because my car is gone. Forever.

And I loved my car.

So ... is it normal to be this attached to a car? Why am I reacting like this? Does anyone have any idea how to get over this over-emotional behavior?

I'm driving an SUV now, which runs fine but is, obviously, way different than my station wagon. I picked out my car. I learned to drive with my car. I chose my car to be my personal vehicle even though it was our "crappiest" car. So ... how should I deal with this?

Am I insane?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    no, it's absolutely normal.

    there was a time period that i went through when i felt attached to everything in my possession, and i would get upset simply because there will never be an EXACT same copy of that, ever again.

    it's a normal reaction and psychological state of mind for us to treat things as part of us, especially if we were very attached to it.

    i think it's the same aspect as, say, you lost your diary or a necklace that your mom gave to you...etc, something that means very much to you. it's always sad when you realize you'll never have it back again, but time will always correct things again, and your SUBconscious will merge with your consciousness and you'll feel whole again.

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