Is it acceptable for a person in a relationship to spend time im-ing someone of the opposite sex?

I generally go by the rule "If you're hiding something from your partner, you're not being honest."

That can start with simple little things. Going to lunch with someone from the office is fine, but when asked you say what you did. Its too easy to just let it go by, just define it as innocent, it doesn't mean anything. But it does mean something. It means you aren't willing to tell your partner you went to lunch with this person. Why?

"Its just an IM, doesn't mean anything" Well, if it doesn't mean anything then why not let them see? Why not tell them?

"They should trust me." True, they should, but they should also expect an honest answer if they ask a question.

Bottom line is if someone is hiding something, that's the beginning of the end in many cases. Without open communication and honesty you breed distrust and that's never a good thing for a relationship.

"What are the new rules?"

You totally have to set them, Darling!

I mean I hear relationships should really try to be 50/50, and about equal partnership and all that good stuff. So let him know that it makes you a little uneasy that you can talk to all of your facebook friends when he's in the room, and that you are bothered that he can't bother to respond to her when you are in the room.

Part of me says to trust him, and part of me thinks he may be up to something.

But the good part of me thinks he just wants his privacy.

But without knowing this bloke well, we are kind of at a real loss for words.

I would be upset too. Cause that would make me question what is he hiding from me. If it were me i would just confront him and let him know that its wrong for him to hide things and that he should trust his partner with every matter. If not this will slowly become sour and bring problems to the relationship.

i'm a married guy, i do no longer techniques my spouse speaking to different adult adult males or does she techniques me speaking to different females, yet we've particular unwritten regulations and bounds we the two comprehend and settle for. Neither human beings will ever date yet another guy and female, or take liberties, that is not any lots like we do it with the aid of fact we ought to constantly, yet we don't want to. we adore one yet another, and there are particular issues that we only do particular for the different, i'm no longer a jealous guy or woman or a administration freak, neither is my spouse, yet i does no longer want to be in a protracted term dating that i could no longer the two be the focal element, or make my mate my focal element. If there is no longer that spark, and burning to be with that guy or woman only, you will by no potential be happy.