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My husband has a very good friend whom he fishes tournaments with and enjoys spending time with. We also fish tournaments as a couples team with them. THis requires quite a bit of time out of town on weekends with them. During our times together, she is very rude to me. She is very social with my husband. she will call, text and message him. SHe does not call or text me. When it is just her and I, she doesnt talk and just plays on her computer. I have made multiple efforts to have conversation and have even extended invites to lunch and movies and such. I did confront her a year ago to see if I had offended her in some way. Her response was that she was protective and possessive of my husband and before me it was always just the three of them and she liked it better that way. My husband and I continuously have heated discussions because he doesnt want to hurt his friend, but I dont feel she should continue to be so rude. I dont want to come between my husband and his friend either. Less time with them is not an option because of the tournaments we all fish together. Other couples that have gone along on these trips will no longer go if she will be there. Suggestions?

My husband and I have been together almost two years. He has a really good friend that he enjoys spending time with. We fish tournaments together, and with them which requires time spent together with this other couple out of town etc. His friends wife has gone out of her way to totally ignore me while we are on these getaway weekends and such. She will call his phone, message him etc.Never calls or messages me. She is very social with my husband but when we are alone she has nothing to say to me and just plays on her computer. I have made countless efforts to have conversation with her and extended invites to lunch movies etc with no progress. When I approached her a year ago she responded that she was possessive of my husband and before I was in the picture she had the guys all to herself. She added The weekend getaways etc were just the three of them and now that im in the picture its changed. My husband and I have way too many heated discussions about this due to the time we spend with them. Im hurt, and he doesnt know how to fix the situation.He doesnt want to hurt his friend by saying anything I dont want to do anything to interfere with my husbands friendship. but I also dont feel that I should tolerate being treated that way as long as we have been together. Other couples we associate with them as well will no longer attend if she is there.Spending less time with them is not a solution for us due to the tournaments that the guys fish together and we all fish together as couples. suggestions??

Is it acceptable for a person in a relationship to spend time im-ing someone of the opposite sex?

Is it acceptable for a person in a relationship to spend time im-ing someone of the opposite sex?

Computers have changed the rules in modern day relationships. Just wondering........ My boyfriend and I have been living together for six months. Like everyone else these days, we both have a facebook page. this has created lots of re-connections with people from our school days and out pasts. in his case one of these friends is a girl that he has not seen since the 7th grade. we are in our 40's. They chat now. He only chats with her when i am not around. Is this something I should be upset about or not. Im not being jealous, just feel like he should be able to chat with me sitting there with him, but he wont. If she messages him when im there he doesnt answer. and if i ask questions like "is she married" or where does she live, he gets defensive. I have always felt that it is ok to have friends of the opposite sex when you are in a relationship. I too have guy friends. but I feel there needs to be openness between you regarding these friends. Ill only chat with mine with him there and share with him so that he can get to know about them too. suggestions anyone? What are the new rules?

Is it acceptable for a person in a relationship to spend time im-ing someone of the opposite sex?

Computers have changed the rules in modern day relationships. Just wondering........ My boyfriend and I have been living together for six months. Like everyone else these days, we both have a facebook page. this has created lots of re-connections with people from our school days and out pasts. in his case one of these friends is a girl that he has not seen since the 7th grade. we are in our 40's. They chat now. He only chats with her when i am not around. Is this something I should be upset about or not. Im not being jealous, just feel like he should be able to chat with me sitting there with him, but he wont. If she messages him when im there he doesnt answer. and if i ask questions like "is she married" or where does she live, he gets defensive. I have always felt that it is ok to have friends of the opposite sex when you are in a relationship. I too have guy friends. but I feel there needs to be openness between you regarding these friends. Ill only chat with mine with him there and share with him so that he can get to know about them too. suggestions anyone? What are the new rules?

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Computers have changed the rules in modern day relationships. Just wondering........ My boyfriend and I have been living together for six months. Like everyone else these days, we both have a facebook page. this has created lots of re-connections with people from our school days and out pasts. in his case one of these friends is a girl that he has not seen since the 7th grade. we are in our 40's. They chat now. He only chats with her when i am not around. Is this something I should be upset about or not. Im not being jealous, just feel like he should be able to chat with me sitting there with him, but he wont. If she messages him when im there he doesnt answer. and if i ask questions like "is she married" or where does she live, he gets defensive. I have always felt that it is ok to have friends of the opposite sex when you are in a relationship. I too have guy friends. but I feel there needs to be openness between you regarding these friends. Ill only chat with mine with him there and share with him so that he can get to know about them too. suggestions anyone? What are the new rules?

I havent been single since I was 15. Rules change. I was in 3 long term relationships which all started as long time friends first. So all these years later, im asking, what do you really want to hear when things start to..... go there. Yes or no. And if yes how soon is too soon. If we say no what do you really think. Just asking.