How do you handle the spouse of a good friend and her children shun your spouse when together?

She just is a very undesirable jealous female is what she is. She once was the queen of the castle so to say, now she's lost that position & this is her way of retaliating. She's honestly making a total fool of herself! It's quite plain to see how it's jealousy that's doing it. It's ashame her husband has already lost friends because of her. Actually, he's the one who should say something to her IF he even is aware of the reason. Either that, or this is what she does all the time, he's so use to it that he doesn't realize it. In all honesty, I don't feel she's worth even being hurt over, she's the ignorant one, you're not the only one she's done/doing this to. So she doesn't have you "singled out" so to speak. She is just one very undesirable miserable person is all she is. Just ashame her husband is paying for it! Knowing what she is & her reasoning, I would just totally ignore her & make up my mind she's sure NOT going to get the best of me. You're sure not going to control or change her, so change yourself in acting like she's not even there. Try not to even give her the satisfaction she's bothering you as that would do nothing but feed her ego. So IF you could do that while all the time knowing you are a far better person than her, maybe that just may help you. As the Serenity prayer goes: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, & the wisdom to know the difference". I'd totally ignore her & live & let live. Have a great time in spite of her...the best to you...:)

I know you said spending less time with them is not a solution, but that is probably going to have to be the solution.

I have been in this same situation. She is jealous of you and she is always going to treat you like that from now on because she is (her words) "possessive" of your husband. Before you were in the picture she had the men to herself and from the way she is behaving she still wants it to be that way.

Sorry, but there would be no more fishing getaways with them.

What are possible actions?

1-You don't go to any more fishing outings until this is taken care of.

It would be a shame. But somehow you have to get it across to your husband how bothersome this is.

2-You insist that neither of you go.

Do whatever it takes.

3-You insist that your husband confront this "woman"

She has no right to be possessive of your husband. You are the life not her.

4-You continue as now.

The other woman will eventually cause a rift in your marriage.

He is overprotective of his friend's feelings. He needs to consider you not his friend.

sounds like one of those women who like ALL the attention when in the vicinity of men! Your husband needs to man up and politely tell this woman that your his wife and its uncomfortable that she isnt very open to being a friend to you as well. If he loved you the way a husband is supposed to he would back off hanging with them until the changes occurred. There doesnt have to be an all out argument... just a calm discussion with them initiated by your husband. If this were me, my husband would be making a choice... NOBODY is going to make me feel inferior in my marriage and definitely not some snotty "need all the attention" type brawd! That is pathetic....... you have every right to be angry and demand a few changes...... shes not his wife, you are......... so dont give in.... stick to your guns... your not tolerating it... and dont go around them until they change their ways...... and if your husband continues to hang with them and leave you out because of this... i would be finding myself a barracuda divorce attorney and move on... life is too short for this sort of soap opera!

good luck

Tell your husband enough-either she starts doing his laundry and cooking or you get treated like his wife. This keeps happening because she is feeding his ego and he hasn't put a stop to it. He needs to tell her the next time she calls or texts that she must check with you, since you make the social engagements. He has to be firm and insist she include you. Make no further arrangements with her and start making sure you, his wife, is treated civilly. This has to stop.She is being allowed-by your hubby-to dampen your marriage. Best thing would be if he found a different fishing companion, with a nice wife.

This is crazy because it sounds like she is jealous of you. If you both are moved on an remarried she needs to grow up. Tell him that you don't want to socialize with her anymore because I love fishing too and I would rather not go with the fishwife! You deserve to have fun and get friends together that are impartial. She sounds like she needs to get over the past and leave you both alone! At my age I have exes and it is sad but we can't keep toxic people in our lives and i bet if she has a husband he is pissed too! Go fishing without her and put your foot down because she is the problem! I bet he is just trying to be nice and women sense when trouble is in paradise! Stand up and tell that wicked witch to go to hell!

Just act like you don't give a crap. And do your own thing. Don't try to be her friend. Ignore her the same way, she ignores you. When it's just the guys, let them go fishing alone. But when it's a couple thing, stay with your husband and don't act like it bothers you. But don't stop going because of her. That's what she wants you to do. Do it your way, don't let her in your space.

Sometimes people just don't click. The fact that she simply might not like you or enjoy your company shouldn't be such a damaging blow to your self esteem. Not everyone will like you or want to be your friend in life. Move on. It's not a big deal unless you make it so. And if she was HIS friend before you came along it doesn't automatically mean that because you are now in the picture, she has to be your friend too.

Your husband is messed up in the head. He thinks more of a friendship with another couple than he does of you. You need to question his character and his sanity.

First off your husband needs to stand up and say something, you two are married not casually dating. Secondly its defiantly sounds like she jealous of you. If it was me I would tell that b**** to step off her pedestal and deal with the fact that you two are married and to deal with it!!