Was this pregnancy a mistake?

pregnancy isn't easy. i'm sorry you're having such a hard time. it's hard to feel happy-go-lucky when you feel like crap all the time...haha =) just remember, your hormones are going crazy off the charts right now. you WILL have varying moods. everyone kept telling me that the first 3 months i would feel sleepy but after that i would be fine. everyone is different - i was exhausted throughout my entire pregnancy and slept all day long pretty much. (on the bright side, they say however you are during your pregnancy is how your baby will be...my daughter sleeps a LOT haha =) i was also so mean and cranky towards my husband. i honestly think he was scared of me for a while there... =) there IS light at the end of the tunnel. you'll have some good days and you'll have some bad days. just try to remember that this baby is a GIFT from God. you were trying for so long and now he has blessed you! it will be so worth it in the end! and just remember that everyone handles things and feels differently. i used to feel like a bad mother because i didn't 'feel' the same way that others did about their pregnancy/babies. but i can tell you i love my daughter more than anything else in this world and just because i feel differently about certain things in no way reflects on my qualities as a mother. the early days of pregnancy sometimes seem to be the worst. your body is having to get used to so much change. things will look up! don't worry. i'll be praying for you and congrats on your baby!!! =) being a mommy really is the greatest job in the world!

also, be sure to take your prenatals. i was very lightheaded and dizzy during my pregnancy and it turns out i was very low on iron. be sure to mention this to your doctor to. he might be able to do a test and see if you need a prescription of iron pills in addition to your prenatals.

First of all-Congrats! Secondly-Welcome to pregnancy! Sounds just like where I was about that time! The lightheadedness was horrible-it would happen even when I was sitting perfectly still! Once the morning sickness went away I had about 3 weeks where all I had to deal with was the weight gains and then the heartburn started! LOL! The light doesn't really begin to shine until Baby really gets here but I wouldn't believe it was a mistake! I hope your honey is understanding and you have a good girl network cuz your going to need it! My worse part of my twin pregnancy so far has been the mood swings every month about when I would have gotten my period. I lose my mind and just bawl and snap for about 4 days!! I hate it ! And I can't even come up with a good reason why I'm doing it! Just hang in there! WHen you see that little face for the 1st time it will all be worth it! Good Luck!

They should really call the first trimester "Mommy hibernation", it seems like all you do is sleep and not feel like eating (or worse, throwing up). Plus your body is being bombarded with all the lovely hormones, and the increased need for blood flow can leave you lightheaded until your body catches up on the red blood cell production. Best thing to do is take a nap whenever you can (my first time, I would take a two hour nap right after I got home from work, and this time around I took a nap when my son did).

It usually does get better by the time your start the second trimester, you're not as tired, your body has gotten used to the hormones somewhat, and while there is still the increased blood flow needs, your body had caught up there as well. In about a month and a half you should start feeling a little bit better (kind of like mother nature giving us a little break before the third trimester and all it's fun).

what you are feeling is normal, and when you hold that little one in your arms, it will all be worth it, just rest as much as you can now, try to eat healthy, and make sure to get plenty of fluids (which could be contributing to the tired, since with increased circulatory demand, comes increased need for fluid to circulate) and take your prenatals, this too shall pass.

Edit- forgot about the second trimester heartburn, didn't have it with my first, but now, it seems like if you look at me cross-eyed, 'Bam, reflux'. Fortunately TUMS helps, and the calcium is good for me too, but i never get heartburn non-pregnant, even from spicy food, or anything other heartburn inducing goodies. But the heartburn does come along with this little guy moving around every day and letting me know he is here, I think he is more active than his brother was, i just hope he is half as sweet as his brother.

aww hun, I went through the same thing. We were both really excited and somewhere in the beginning, I was really emotional over feeling so miserable. I broke down and cried to my husband telling him I feel selfish because I should be excited but all I can think about is how I feel so rotten.

There really is light at the end of the tunnel. Around 10 weeks my symptoms started to dissipate and while I still have other issues, I feel so much better.

You're a few weeks away from going into your second trimester. Good luck and congratulations!

Just wait until you get to see your little one on an ultrasound monitor and hear their tiny heart beating so fast. It will melt all your anxiety away. Pregnancy is the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me and even with the hip pain, aches and discomfort, I wouldn't trade it for anything. I get the most amazing miracle from it all, a beautiful baby boy. And honey, the nausea will pass. In another month or so you'll start getting more energy and feeling better. When you feel those first flutters it will take your breath away. Focus on the positive as much as you can. No challenge is more than God knows we can handle. Best of luck!

First of all-CONGRATULATIONS!!!

You reminded me of a conversation I had with a friend who is due around the same time as me during our first trimesters. We were wondering how/why people do "this" more than once. The first trimester is pretty yucky, but the second is usually better. :) I haven't experienced the third yet, I'm only 17 weeks. But for me like clockwork, around 13-14 weeks I began to feel better. I still get tired more easily, but pregnant bodies are working really hard. Just stick to it, keep your eyes on the prize (so to speak), and it will be all worth it in the end. :) Nothing of great value is ever easy. :)

Welcome to the pregnant world. It is very hard but it is necessary in order to bring life into the world. Right now your body is using all the hormones to build the placenta. Once your placenta is there it will take over with the hormones and hopefully you will feel better. The first 3 months can be very hard. YOu should feel a lot better in the Second trimester. You can take tylenol and make sure you are eating healthy foods to help you feel better. Remember it is just 9 months. You may feel disapointed now but once you see your little baby you will know that is was all worth it. And the crazy thing is I bet you will want to do it all over again.

HI HUN WOW THIS IS VERY SIMLAR TO MY PERDICAMENT....

Im 27 and so is my fiancee im currently 37 weeks and cant wait. Believe me the first 3 months were the worst ,i had never been so sick and some days could not get out of bed it was that bad. But it will pass i promise you... Its a case of all those hormone changes happening.

Believe me you will have times when you ask yourself was this worth it?? You loose your body and start to feel less attractive.. I did anyway but if your partner is supportive you will get through it... It gets better...And just think what an amazing present your going to both get at the end of it!!!

Think about those people who cant have babies... We are very lucky!!!!

xxx

You are only 7 weeks!!! You have 33 more weeks to get used to the idea. And trust me, here in a month or two you will start feeling a lot better and wont feel that way anymore. It is hard to be grateful of your little miracle when you are sick and feeling awful. Plus those hormones do crazy things to us!!! Congrats! No, I dont think it was a mistake at all it was planned between two people who love each other.

You will get past this! If you do continue to feel depressed through out the pregnancy, speak with your physician though.

I hear you honey. When I was PG with my daughter I was sick the first 4 months, the Doc. and the nurses at the hospital thought I was going to die and or have a misscariage. I had gallbladder problems they never thought i would carry to full term, I was so sick and misserable and felt guilty about it. But after I got 5 months things got better and I felt great and carried her to full term and had a pretty baby girl. So hold on it will get better. I will be praying for you. And they took out my gall bladder when she was 6 months old and I feel great. good luck.