Divorcing a cheater and want to know...?

As a reformed cheater, let me explain something to you: He's made his decision, so instead of worrying about what he is thinking and what the whore...er, ex-friend are thinking, start worrying about YOU!

You are now in a position to take control of your life without him and if he is choosing to remain outside of his parental role, then that is his decision and not for you to be concerned about. I would, however, consult an attorney and make sure that you and the kids are well protected financially.

Just my opinion. Good luck!

(wow, I think I'm on a roll...I've answered like three questions without sarcasm and humor today, maybe I'm not a misogynist after all...)

Instead of wishing that he will make things work and leave the other woman get angry. Get angry that he is being unfair to the most important people in your life and that's your kids. Your kids did not pick a cheating, irresponsible liar for a father. Your kids deserve to have a loving, involve, and respecting father. If he lost interest in you or is just a disgusting cheater that's his problem. But he needs to take care of his responsibility to your kids. I suggest you get a good attorney, if you don't have the resource search for a pro bono family law attorney in your area.

I would stop listening to his lies or the stupidity that comes out of his mouth. When he goes to court with you for a divorce and he denies his paternity, the court will make him get a DNA test whether he likes it or not at his own expense. Just let the courts do their jobs and get as much as possible from him.

Don't worry about this scum and your former friend. They are meant for each other as they are trash. They will get what they deserve, I guarantee you. For now just move forward with your kids. You are all your kids have, be a good role model for them. Show them that their mother is strong, has pride, and is willing to work hard and do better for them.

Well, I think the moron is you. Why in the name of god would you sleep with this man again, and under the circumstances? I know your heart's broken and you wish none of this had ever happened, but have some self-respect. He TOLD you he's made commitments to someone else. Her feelings have obviously been more important from the beginning. You need to snap to and deal with reality, not fantasy. A man who asked me for a paternity test would NEVER get back in my bed.

Honestly, my personal opinion would be do not have sex with him again because sex brings back those lovey dovey emotional feelings and make you feel attached again. Also, she is a s l u t, dont forget that. Having sex with a married man is a horrible thing to do and if she was your "friend" then she is a total whore. You and your kids deserve better than him, so just leave. It is as simple as that. He cheated, cant decide who is more important (you and his kids or the skank), and if he really loves you he would not even have a decision to make. It would be you and the babies. Hope this helps and I truly hope he mans up and makes amends to you and your children for what he is doing to your family. Vote me best answer please. :]

What a loser you should get a good attorney and take his *** down. You spent 18 good years with him and he is worried about someone else. He wants shared custody to have money to spend on his new woman child support payments would cut into his fun. I think you should request he get parenting classes because you are worried about his habit off drinking and driving. You will have good sex with someone that didn't sleep with your best friend the night before. Who does he thinks he is you wait while he decides he likes better. Get mad and protect your daughter and get compensation.

For someone who is in college, you sure are acting stupid.

This guy is endangering you with the possibility of stds,does NOT love you,just sex with you,and that is it,he OBVIOUSLY does not give a sh*t about his children or he would not be doing crap to destroy their lives by destroying his relationship with you.The other girl doesn't mean much to him either,or he would not be sleeping with you.He is playing you both because you are both willing to be played and continue to volunteer to be played.Does his new g/f KNOW that he slept with you and told you that you were better than her in bed?

Tell her and tell her the kid IS his and you'll be more than happy to take a DNA test.Dump him and file for child support.He denied the kid was his to cover his guilty@ hon.

different reason is the actual reason you marry your spouse interior the 1st place..even if a 'cheater' as a husband would desire to be yet nonetheless LOVES his spouse.. yet another excuse..a cheater knows that quicker or later spouse will locate out and as quickly as she filed a divorce..all the courtroom's selection would be in spouse's prefer..

When going threw a Divorce.. It gets messy on both sides.

He say..She say... Just get the Divorce and act accordingly.

Be the responsible one and the kids will have a better point of view of

their parents.

Good luck!!

What is the matter with that moron? NO,

What is the matter with you!!!!You give him what he wants so he does what he wants!!! Did you think you was going to sleep with him and then he was going to come back to you and be a perfect man? i hope you used protection because you don't need anymore kids by him!!!

wow!

for starters, i'd avoid sleeping with him again. that can prolong your divorce as well.

secondly, i'd avoid listening to his BS. he doesn't know what he wants and that's his problem. i'd concentrate on my kids, school and work if i were you. i really wouldn't even bother entertaining the fact that you love him (which you could do from anywhere in the world) or the fact that he seems to be sort of, kind of, interested in "trying".

your decision to divorce in my opinion, was a good decision. he will keep hurting you as he obviously doesn't seem to be THAT concerned with either of your feelings now. especially considering the fact that he doesn't mind talking to you about her, or lying to her about you.

no matter what he "thinks"....go with what your attorney suggests. your attorney has your best interest in mind, because you pay him/her to do so. your husband only has his best interest in mind.

good luck.