My husband is turning racist to blacks but yet im black?

Be honest and open with him about how you feel. If you are married then he should be telling you the TRUTH about this. Remember why you married him in the 1st place. Im assuming he bent down on one knee and asked YOU right? 2nd, you have more than one child with him right? Think about the first time you saw him holding you child in his arms right after you gave birth. Is the picture of your husband holding your 1st born in his arms a picture of a racist? Probably not. But, he should be HONEST about why he was on that site. Ask the question....let him answer...and believe what he tells you. Be it good or bad, he has too much invested in your marriage and your children to not tell you the truth. Good luck!

Stormfront, is not intended to be a racist site. It is a site basically made for white people who live in predominantly black areas or cities, who are pretty much silenced by their communities. This is because the "community issues" are labelled as "black issues" by our community and thus, silence us from our own communities. The site is an outlet for the white minority who are rather silenced in America. It also is a site for those against black racism, which is prevalent in areas where black people are the majority. Anyway, if your husband lives in a predominately black area, maybe he's not racist, but needs an open outlet to voice his opinion of community issues. Now if he's upper class living in a white city and going on Stormfront, lol... then he may be a racist.

Hi i can personally relate to what you are going through at this moment. I am biracial my mom is white dad is black, one summer vacation i was visiting my mom's relatives when i over heard them speaking meanly about my black father. I was furious because my dad has a great job in corporate America, my two sisters , brother and i all attend private schools, we live in a great community in a house that is already paid for. We have always gone on great family vacations to Europe since i was a kid, yet they still had the nerve to say disrespectful things about him. I know that my Grand mother and Aunt loves us and all, but just hearing these things coming from them changed my relationship with them forever. I now spend most holidays with my dad's relatives, where there is so much more love. I think that you should have a talk with him, if it is bothering you so much, what is a marriage without communication right? Sometimes i think that a person can love someone of a certain race, and still have a tendency to be a little racist.

it is very possible the Hubby may need shrink like i do although i'm not a racist i have developed many less than desirable habits.it took my wife daughter and the only two friends i have to convince me i was acting well like a jerk.one of the first signs i was going off was i burned the relationship of most my friends just to clear clutter.well it worked no one calls unless they need something that is ok .i guess i am trying to let you know sometimes wee all get off and need help.asking for it is a whole nother bag of tricks.if you live long enough all sorts of s... happens it is how you deal with it and i tell you failing is humbling.working it out is what winners do.never forget to pray ya know if you ask with a contrite and a willing heart anything is possible.

This is really sad. It is not the first time that someone has racist tendencies, but love black women. There are stories of KKK members with black mistresses.

What concerns me is that this is a custom of his, not just a one time thing out of curiosity. What also concerns me is that you even question whether to confront him or not, that says alot about what he has ALREADY done to your self esteem. There is absolutely no question that you should confront him about it, sit down and discuss this with him.

Maybe some questions to ask are:

Why do you visit this site? Do you agree with their beleifs? Would you try to teach our children these things? How often do you visit race related sites?(this is probably not the only one)

I just saw something on TV where some of these hate groups are growing because some whites are being brainwashed and they are using fear of becoming a minority or being taken over by immigrants as a thin veneer to hate others.

I hope that your husband was not caught up in this, but it certainly sounds like it. I hope it works out for you, do the best for your mental health and for your children.

Edit: I had a feeling you don't like confrontation, just from what you said. There are times to let things lie, and there are times to stand up, I truly believe this IS one of the times to stand up. Get the strength from somewhere!!

I am sorry but I don't think you are being completely honest ot there are parts of the story missing. There had to be signs before that he felt this way. Had too, either you didn't want to accept it on the premise, he hates them but likes me and I am not like them; or, you were too naive and caught up in the feelings and thought he would change by being with you..

This is truly scary and similar to relationships that the slave master had with the slave. You need to address this with him now, and you need to communicate with your kids more. It doesn't matter if they go to their dad, you go to them.

My sister has had her share of white men and their negative feelings toward blacks. One caller her a ni$$er. All have spoken ill of black men on may occassions and often showed very little concern when discussing hate groups that target blacks, like whatever.

Just because someone dates you doesn't mean they respect you, that is the type of society we live in...

Good luck, I wish you the best........

Um, wow. You need to tell him what you found out. And uh, you can't just turn racist all of a sudden. He's just showing you who he is. He's already made remarks that should have left you wondering and I'm sure there has been more things said but you don't want to remember them. I don't blame you. I wouldn't want to believe that someone I loved hated people who looked like me. I would get out of there. That's a real scary situation. Next thing you know he's gonna be hanging up white robes in the closet and teaching your kids how to make nooses....

STORMFRONT?

Wooow. I came across that website by accident one day. I was utterly disgusted by what I read.

I can't fathom being married to someone who frequents the site-- even if I was white.

From my interaction with white people, I've realized that MANY of these white racists do indeed have minority friends. Heck, a lot of people I've heard make extremely racist comments or slurs were always very nice and polite to me. I can't understand how any of them would end up *marrying* a black person though...

You should confront him, definitely....

Some racist people are weird. I know this guy who talks about white pride all the time and he has friends of all different races.

LOL I been on that site Stormfront. I just wanted to see what they talk about on there.

My dad says the most racist of white men love black women and will marry them because a wife/girlfriend is like having a personal slave.

You cook for them, have sex with them, clean after them, do all kinds of things for them, yet on the inside they probably have little to no respect for you.

My Uncle is a white guy and he hates black men, loves black women and married my Aunt. They have 2 sons now & I always wondered what he thinks because his kids obviously have black in them and will be seen to many as black men. Thats too weird for me... see? Theres another reason to stay the hell away from white men! like i needed any more... yuck!