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Not sure what to think??? Or how to act about this situation.?
OK so my friend and her hubby are getting a divorce. He is military and he already has a girlfriend even though he is still married. My friend found out she has cushings disease and has a large brain tumor and not sure if it is cancer. So he told her he would stay married long enough for her to get the medical she needed. Her plan was to move home with the kids have surgery and recover. She packed all her stuff and was ready to go and then one week before she was to leave he decided to threaten her with a protective order to keep their kids (i mean she had already paid for plane tickets non refundable). So she had to unpack all their stuff and leave them and supposedly he will take them to her once she is better and settled. I have this feeling he is going to file for custody as well as divorce like now instead of waiting. He is 30 and his new girl toy is barely 20 and is a military man chaser i think she is just looking for someone to take car of her and my friend left yesterday and last night the girlfriend was on the verge of moving in with him. Now here is the kicker he is good friends with my hubby and has been invited to come over for thanksgiving and christmas but i am not sure how to act about his girlfriend coming, with him in the military it is "illegal" for him to have a girlfriend while still married and i already feel caught int he middle of this entire mess because she wants me to keep an eye out fer her kids she is afraid he will not properly care fer them, and i know for a fact he is leaving them with the new girlfriend while he goes to the doctor and such, she is also afraid he will not correct them if they decide to call the new girlfriend mommy the kids are only 3 and 9 months.
So if he comes to our dinner do i tell him she isn't welcome? I just don't know. I honestly think he is looking for an easy lay and i am not comfortable with her coming to my house when he #1 is still techinally married and #2 his wife is a friend. I do not have a problem telling him if he isn't caring for the kids i will call CPS and his chain of command, i think he kept them to piss her off more than anything and not have to pay money. Any suggestions????
She does know about the girlfriend even has a picture of them kissing, with him in uniform, that the girl toy was dumb enough to post on twitter she went to JAG and they told her unless there was proof of intercourse then nothign she could do how stupid is that. Thanks guys.
5 Answers
- gothikaLv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
Wow! that's a real tuffy, well if I were you, I wouldn't allow neither one of them come along, you got pretty much figure this loser will insist on having his girl toy come along, as they are a package item now. So to keep the peace and your sanity and well being uninvite him to dinner and out of respect to your friend, don't allow this creep/loser into your house.
- 1 decade ago
**** Him it dont matter if he's in the military it dont mean **** but, tell him that his new GF is not aloud and to come to the dinner What The F*ck if he doesnt like it then he wont come and ur friend can use the fact that he has a girl friend now to get her kids back most of the time when it comes down to the kids going with a parent its mostly the mom unless shes a drug addict or something like that u kno but i think if hes a good guy then he should man up to the situation but if not then hes a *****
- 1 decade ago
I think if the kids are in harms way you should do and call who ever you need and get the kids safe. About the holidays i personally would tell him that you are not comfortable with her yet and to see if he will respect your feelings.
- 1 decade ago
does she have parents that could help with the kids. she can go to an attorney and have you appointed guardian sorry i don't recall the actual term. but she needs to protect her self and her kids.and you should anonymously report him for having a girl friend. still they should not keep the kids from one another cause it is the kids that will suffer later not them
- 1 decade ago
tell her to take her kids back immediately... mothers usually always get their kids in custody battles unless they have been staying with the father.
and thanksgiving is the holiday that you spend with your friends and family so you shouldnt have to b stressed about her coming... tell him to leave her at home or just to leave her haha
