Can a married man EVER love another woman, or is it automatically just lust/sex?

It means he perceives you as a convenient azz-wipe who is willing to put up with any and all of his bull sh--t. Oh her? she's just some of his bull-sh--t.

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Can a married man EVER love another woman, or is it automatically just lust/sex?

This is my husband I am talking about.

He had an affair with a single girl last year, and she made him her everything, as he told her he was getting divorced from me. (or words to that effect)

He told her: (over a 1 year period)

I wish I met you first, we'd have a proper happy home...

Your husband was very much in love with his mistress. That happens alot of time when there is an affair. Alot of times the man will treat the other woman a lot better than the wife. If your husband has had an affair then he could end up doing it again with another woman. Sometimes when a couple is married they end up taking each other for granted and that is why your husband didn't care enough about what you were doing.

youre the wife. get over it. there is no such thing as the perfect man. although many here would disagree.

now for the q in point, he had an affair and wanted sex from her. SEX !

the main issue is what he did (the affair) - the details about it dont change anything but the fact that it happened. She got the restraining order on your husband otherwise things would not have stopped! So he probably wanted more than sex from her and she didnt want him.

so now my q is - what are you doing with this douche bag?

It Mns He Truely Loves you and are Sure that you are always with Him but abt this Young Lady He was Fullfilling his Lust n was Insecure that any time She Should not Leave Him thatz the reason He Noticed her Nail Polishes n do Small small Pretty Jobs in which you had been ignored ....

"Cus He Is Sure that you are for him n always be with him so no need to Fascinate you ..."

Better to stay away from his lust...lead your life as the princess of his house rather to look wht is goin on outside.

Sounds like he really knows how to treat a lady. Too bad his choice was to treat the wrong lady well. At first I want to say he loved her or that because the relationship was so new, he really threw himself into doing all the best for her. Something maybe he felt he couldnt do with you for one reason or another. If he really loved her he would have left you for her unless he feels trapped in his marriage and stays for one reason or another. Did he take out the restraining order or did you force him? You need to sit and discuss these things with him, to make the both of you happier and strengthen your marriage or else he may carry on with another woman as he did with the last.

He was definitely in love with her. Perhaps he still is and just hasn't continued because of the restraining order? I probably would have separated +/- divorced him ages ago, but if you are willing to give him the second chance it seems you have, then if he does anything like it again, get out of that relationship. You have every right to be the boss in this situation. He was the one who cheated, not you. You tell him exactly what you need from him to allow him to be the man in your life, no more chances.

Sounds like sex and infatuation. She doted on him and you have taken him for granted .. the same as he is taking you for granted. You should see if you can reinvigorate your marriage or otherwise the same thing is going to happen again .. with a new woman in the place to which you've moved. The problem with your marriage, whatever it is, is still there and has not been resolved. And his answer will be to move to another doting female and do the same thing again.

Ok, she got a restraining order on him? That means that no he did not choose to stay with you. She dumped him and you were willing to still be there. When another woman comes along he will do the same thing. He is only with you until something better comes along. You need to be the person that dumps him before he dumps you.

Yes a married man can actually love another woman..

It is possible because the heart is an amazing thing

when coupled with emotions that are true and become visually true

emphatically yes love can grow from that whether married or not...

It means he had an affair --- full blown emotional and sexual affair.

I would imagine he is saying "I didn't love her." That was him looking to fulfill needs that he wasn't getting at home......

He most likely has some issues with commitment. He was boosting his ego and getting a distraction from you. He is probably not capable of being too close to someone --- and beign monogamous. These things take a tremendous amount of honesty and the willingness to look inside yourself and grow up.

When I was 22 I acted like that. Now I am 34. I realize it is because I had low self-worth and I needed attention from different men to help me feel better about myself. I kept a steady boyfriend but I acted out out of immaturity, low self-worth, and my inability to stay focused and have good priorities. I only figured this out after years of counseling.

My concern is ---that he doesn't have a lot of respect for you. Sounds like he knows you won't go aware so he has taken you for granted --- like a mommy who won't throw him out. He sounds like he is bored with you --- but that isn't your fault necessarily...see, if he wasn't honest enough to tell you WHY so that you could change it --- its not your fault. Its his fault for not listening to his feelings, be honest with you, and trying to work on it WITH you --- instead of just acting like a child and going after a new toy when the other one isn't keeping your attention.

It was an affair -not just sex. She was as shiny new toy for him.....you were the old toy that he likes, and wants to keep around.

Relationships take TWO people One has to be willing to say for example "you know what ---I feel bored - you are not dressing up like you used to...please do this like you used to, please give me attention like you used to" and the other person willing to say " I see what you mean, it hurts my feelings and it sucks....but I will do whatever it takes to give you what you need - --and I respect your needs."... and vice versa.