Do you think this older guy could be genuinely interested in me?

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he's 8 years older than me and i'm only 19, but i'm pretty mature for my age. he told me he was interested, and i'm interested in him too, but i told him i'd like for us to just stay friends for now. basically, he has a good government job, he is a college graduate, and he has an apartment.

i told him that i thought we should be friends because i feel like i don't have much to offer him since he already has all of his **** together and i'm still in college and living with my parents. i told him i thought it would be nice to have a friend like him though and he said that he thought that sounded nice as well. i'm currently jobless also..

do you think maturity could make up for my lack of independence in a older guy's eyes? lack of independence as in living with my parents, not having a job, and still going to school. i make A's and B's and have a scholarship.

so my questions are, do you think maturity could make up for my lack of independence in a older guy's eyes? & do you think do you think this older guy could be genuinely interested in me? how much do you think my personality can make up for in the parts i'm lacking


(ps: i asked here because it's obviously a 'mens' section)

Kathy · Accepted Answer

I'm sure the older guy is interested.  The question  is why.  

Some people like younger people because they are attractive.
Some people like younger people because they are easier to control.
Neither of these are the foundation for anything solid.  And, he probably doesn't care about how mature you are.

The problem with this age gap is that you may not have the same way of thinking as him.  You may also miss out on some of the experiences that people your age have if you are hanging out with a 27 year old.  And because he is ahead of you in life, he may want things that you are not ready for.

If he is really willing to just be friends for now, that is a good sign.  But, watch out for him to try to change your mind.  Not a good sign.  The beginning of controlling you.

l00k_up · Answer

If he is willing to leave it at the friends level, especially until you are done with school, you may have something.  If he tries to push things or change your mind, run.  He very well may be interested in you because you are mature, but if he is mature, he will realize that even if you are mature, you are still 19 and have a few things you need to get settled for yourself before settling.

Anonymous · Answer

well he said he did, and if i was 27 i would enjoy a 18 year old g/f

jozantdude2 · Answer

Lol above or below

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