Who can give me tips on how to get over someone?

OMG.

i've been in your EXACT situation. and it was only about two weeks ago that i was there.

and, honestly, the pain is still there. The pain of "I-think-I-might-still-like-him" pain when you remember those sweet and good times (like whenever i watch or hear of the movie we watched together on our first date and we cuddled *sigh*. or when i go through my old emails to find something homework related and then, oops!, i see an old FB notification that he messaged me/poked me from wayyy back when.) And he's basically friends with every single one of my close friends. And they talk about him ALL THE TIME because he's a great guy that's really funny and fun to be with. see. i'm doing it right now. But what i mean is i can't cut myself off from him at all, and i keep getting reminders about him, and it comes in waves.

sometimes i'm like "wow, i'm SO over him" and then someone goes "oh ahaha listen to the funny think [his name] did yesterday, okay so..." and i'm like NO GODDAMN I LOVE HIM. it sucks.

but yeah so i get you COMPLETELY, girl. i understand what your feeling and i know it sucks :( i'm sorry.

anyway, what I did was I tried to pick some really effing hot guy at school and crush on him. but then i found i was only attracted to my ex for some evil reason. so if that happens to you too, then i tried thinking about hot celebrities that i'd love more (taylor lautnerrrrr) and, this one's nerdy, i read this book that had a similar situation to mine in it about my ex and it made me feel better that to protagonist was reacting like i did. and then i read Twilight again. so maybe romance novels will help? hopefully one with some heartbreak before the eventual get better romance part.

and i listened to songs that we're like "i'm better of without you"-type things that talked about what I really DIDN'T like about him (mood swings and miscomunication were some of them - hello, "SOS" by the Jonas Brothers even tho i hate them! think about his faults and think about a song that contains those and then sing it. even change the words so that it fits your situation better. that's what i did. omg it helped so much sometimes.) oh, and...

I ate. a LOT. of. FOOD.

i kept making brownies and cookies. and eating them. it was wonderful.

and i spent a lot of time with my friends and ignored whatever they said about him.

but i'm still not completely over him and it's not helping that I keep thinking we might get back together. I have a legit reason why i think we might. but if you don't, be HONEST with yourself about this, then STOP thinking about getting back together with him because it prolongs the pain for false hopes and then you'll see him walking down the street with some slut on his arm and it will just kill you and embarrass you. but if you feel like you might, like you REALLY feel like you have a good chance of it, sometimes a little fantasy of when he'll finally confess to still loving you helps. but if you don't think you'll get back together, if you're not almost 99% sure it's gunna happen, then STOP thinking about him in a romantic way and try to think about his faults as much as possible. and maybe talk to someone that doesn't like him to vent. that would be funn. :)

Good luck sweetie,

you're gorgeous and wonderful and you'll get over this, I promise. i'm already a lot better and it's been like 2 weeks.

best wishes,

T

Tips? We'll why now not smile at her and say hello.. begin with the fundamentals. Don't act like a jerk and be Macho, ladies hate that. Just be your self, If she does not like then you definitely transfer on. Plenty of fish within the sea. Hope this is helping, Cheers,

I am going through the exact same situation. Girlfriends tell you "He's not worth it, forget about him!" or "He's a total jackass, he's not worth your time." And its alot easier said than done.

I was seeing a guy last year at school and I thought at the beginning of this school year it would become official and we would start dating. He transferred schools and got a gf without telling me (I found out over Facebook, of all ways). Everything reminds me of him, and it still hurts me, this many months later.

Quite frankly one of the best ways (for me) to get over a guy is focus on another guy, or other guys. Focus on fun, or cute guys. Don't have to act on anything, but thinking about other guys will push him out of your mind when desire/romance gets on your brain.

I also use special tricks. For example, I have all 10 seasons of Friends on DVD, and watching them helps. Going out with my friends on the weekends, or doing other fun things to keep your mind off him also helps. Bury yourself in a busy life. Have things constantly going. When I'm not studying or writing term papers, I'm at cheer practice. When I'm not at cheer practice, I'm out with my girls, or going to concerts with my guy friends. If I have a cheer-free weekend, I work long weekends at my waitressing job. I fill my life so that I have no time to think about him. And it will hurt for awhile, but eventually, the feelings will fade away.

Steps to getting over it

1. delete all those emails

2. don't play that kind of music, get a play list with a lot of songs like "I don't wanna be in love" and "So What" and blast them and sing along

- it's rough at first b/c it's weird not having them around

you can get through it though i promise you and eventually it won't hurt to think about him. remember you don't have to cut him off completely unless of course he deserves to be. You can still see him and things be okay. can't promise it won't be awkward at first though

good luck

From the last sentence you wrote then you really don't want to get over him

But the times that you feel like you do want to leave him in the past just try doing things to keep you busy to keep your mind off of him. listen to music, surf the internet, talk to supportive friends. it'll pass over with TIME, you'll eventually get tired of his bull and leave him alone on your own time.

Catherin,

The next time you see him tell or say[I am all right now I have found another sage] he's the one that will be gutted then.

Give me 15 minutes with you and you won't be able to remember that jabroni's name.

Straight up.

Stop reading emails and stop listening to music.

Will power. Will power!

-Try not to think about them

-Find someone else you'll love (make sure you really love them, don't just use them) (you don't have to do it--no pressure!)

-Therapy

-Do something fun with your friends/family (shopping at malls, hiking,...etc.)

Best of luck with coping!

try to be friends rather than in a relationship, and it is important to date other people in order to cement the break up.