Why do I get weird looks when I'm out in town with my kids?

It's a perception thing. No you're not doing anything wrong..if your husband works evenings and you have to have your kids with you, you really have no choice. At least you're keeping a close eye on them, and not letting them run rampid through the store. I get weird looks too when I have my two daughters with me, and my husband can't come along. I just ignore the looks and move on. I think what your eight year old does is very responsible..way better-mannered than what I've seen happen while shopping. Just keep doing what you're doing, and try to ignore the looks. As long as your kids are well behaved and not bothering anybody, I really don't see a problem with it. Good job.

I get looks too. I am 26 and have a 7 year old son, 6 year old daughter, 3 year old daughter and a 2 year old daughter and I watch my niece who is 10 months old. Part of it I think is just because we are young. Some people automatically assume that we didn't plan our children, that we must not be married etc.

On the other hand some people I think, are just staring at someone who has that many children so close together.

I don't let it bug me, I know I am a good mom, my children are well behaved, clean and healthy. Its really nobodies business!

You're fairly young and you have 4 children, two of which are pretty close in age. People like to give weird looks to young people with kids. Personally, I'd just ignore them. You are married and taking care of your kids. Who cares what other people think?

Btw, my best friend is 23 and has a 5 year old, 2 year old, 1 year old, (all born in July and August) and 1 month old. She's also married, but I'm sure she gets strange looks too.

Next time someone looks at you that way, go over and ask them the reason.

I'd think because you're young and have a lot of children.. But I wouldn't give you any looks, I'd just wonder in my mind how the hell you do it, lmao, I can barely handle one!

*Wow, do people seriously assume because you have 4kids that you are white trash and on welfare? I can't believe how judgemental they can be!

I live in Mexico, I'm 23, married and have an almost-2yo son and I can honestly say I have never gotten that kind of stares or looks.. I'd be pretty mad if anyone dared to judge me without even knowing me!

Don't worry about it (or any of the nasty comments you received here, either). You may be young, but you sound as though you have it pretty much together, so good for you!

Really, it's none of their business, those that are giving you the weird looks. They're probably wondering if they're your kids, how old you are (if you look excessively young) ;-) but it's not any of their business. Maybe you're baby sitting. Maybe they're your siblings. Maybe they are your children - it doesn't matter - because it's none of their business.

Keep up the good work. Give those kids a big hug and a kiss & your husband too! God bless!

I would also guess it is your age, the number of children you have and there age concentration. I can't wait (yes I'm a dork) to see the next census figures. After decades of family size decreasing, at least around where I live it seems like it has been increasing substantially the past few years.

It could be because you're so young and have so many kids. I know I tend to look at people funny when they're packing around 4+ children. I know it's kinda rude, but I just can't help it. So maybe it's just the sheer number of children you have. 4 kids isn't a lot, but most families only have 1-3 children.

I still get looks, and I'm 31! I can pass for early 20's, though, so---walking around with 4 kids, one of whom is almost 12, and nearly as tall as I am---gets me stared at, sometimes.

My husband is the father of all 4 of them, and we've been married almost 13 years, so... I don't give a crap what they think... Your best bet is to simply ignore them; they have no bearing on your life with your family. Period.

Yeah well people can be jerks! its probably because your young and you have 4 kids. I'm going to be 23 and i have 3 kids and i always get "the look" from people at the store too. I've even had people ask me my age because i have "so many" kids and i'm sooo young!

I just try to ignore the people that do give the look and go on about my business. I mean hey its not they're problem, right...

I wouldn't worry about it. I get similar stares. I am 19 and have a 4 1/2 yo daughter 19 month old son, and 11 day old daughter and son. I also am taking care of a friends 3 children. 4 yo girl, 2 yo boy and 7 month old boy. We get crazy looks too. Even when my BF is with us, or a friend is with me its crazy the looks and words that are thrown my way. I am sure your a wonderful mom. Who cares if your young if you can take care of them. Good luck with the cruel world