What is cheating, where is that line?

tell your friend to grow up..... if she is not sure what she is doing is cheating or not.... she should not be doing it.

Hmm good question. In general I think women set the bar a little higher than men. Some people, men in particular from what I have seen, think its not cheating to kiss, have phone sex, online sex, mutual masturbation or anything really that stops short of the full deal. Personally I think intent is a major part of it, but then what about emotional infidelity, where people have not gotten physically involved but share the intimacy that should really only be between partners? Maybe its something that people need to discuss early on in the relationship so that the lines are clear.

I would say though that its irrelevant really what any of us think in this case, its your friends perception of what her husband is up to is the point, if she has a problem with it then it IS a problem

I think that if it is flirting with different people once or twice it is not cheating, if it is flirting with the same person over and over then it is flirting with the intention of cheating if the opportunity opens up. Planing on cheat is still cheating because it is still being dishonest with your spouse. And if you will go so far as to plan it what would stop them from doing it?

Your answer is as good as any, my friend. Premeditated infidelity is "cheating." And I agree with your assessment on flirting. Online or in person, flirting is what humans do. It's the intent behind the flirting that matters because you can take it as far or NOT as far as you want.

Personally, if he's carrying on a cyber-flirtation, he's being a ********. He should respect his wife's feelings and cease this activity. Or he should already have the presence of mind not to indulge in a sexually heated activity that will alarm or hurt her. However, you nor she is even certain he's actually DOING anything, flirting or otherwise. Maybe she should be more certain before she make accusations.

Any emotional attachment, sexual or otherwise, to another individual outside your spouse is a cause for introspection. One must know exactly where his/her feelings begin and end with that outside person, in respect to the vows one took with his/her spouse. And if he/she doesn't know, then fake it. It is one's responsibility to his/her spouse to honor and protect them. That includes feelings and perceptions of one another. If her husband isn't honoring his vows by intentionally seeking out women to flirt with online, then he's in the wrong. But she won't know unless she finds out for sure. And then she can point the finger and call a duck, a duck.

Cheating is anything that breaks the agreement you have with your SO. When a couple becomes exclusive they usually set rules around the relationship. Most people generally accept that monogamy is one of those rules, but there may be others. If your SO breaks one of those rules it would be considered cheating. If you have not set any rules in your relationship then the line becomes blurry if something is cheating or not. Sit down with your SO and discuss the guidelines or expectations you have of your SO and what they have of you. You will then be very clear on what is cheating or not.

I define cheating as ......any behaviour that you wouldn't tell your spouse about.

I agree with you light hearted flirting is harmless.........BUT if it gets out of control can be extremely damaging to your relationship.....and the fact is ALOT of women misinterpret flirting. They think that if a man is polite or offers help, then they are automatically not happy at home and are looking elsewhere.

Men don't understand this concept either, and that's when things get messy.

I think flirting online is cheating.............because you are intentionally do it, and most of the time you don't even know who you are talking to on the other side!!!

Tell her to calm down, and relax its not cheating. Cheating is taking the easy way out of a relationship, some people just flirt, while other want their cake and eat it too. If he cheats on her and has sex with another female, then its time to leave. Tell her to get proof before she snaps and accuses him of cheating.

I think anytime you are doing something behind your spouses back it's cheating. If you are hiding things then that means there is something to hide. Flirting can be harmless but I know I wouldn't appreciate it if my husband was a flirt. Does your friend's husband do this in front of her? Is he hiding it? He may just be a dick head but he may be looking for more.

It all depends how far you take flirting. If it’s just innocent flirting like teasing someone than its okay but if it’s more like “Damn you’re Fine“ that’s cheating.

Even if it’s online is cheating, once they get the trust between them after it would turn to curiosity and will want to meet each other.

Cheating is when you either emotionally or physically do or attempt to do something you know would be disrespectful to your relationship and/or your spouse. If you wouldn't do it front of your spouse, then you are at least on the road to cheating and need to check your intentions.

Your conscience will tell you if you are cheating and you all know where the line is. Be true to your spouse or significant other and stop encouraging people to cheat by saying its ok.

to me anything you wouldn't do in front of your partner is cheating, whether is very subtle or not, that's up to you to decide, if you flirt, imo it's cheating a subtle cheating but it is, once you are committed you have no business flirting, for what? since flirting may get you to do a non so subtle cheating which is sex or even worse get attached to another person and ruin the whole relationship.