How to prove I'm ready to him?

He is afraid to get married and get hurt again. He sees you as a convenience. Don't let him use you. You may be ready but he is making dumb excuses. Soon it'll be another one. Don't pressure him in to it. It'll only make him resent you. Best cut ties while you still can. If he still wants you he can make his decision without you there.

Jade you need to RUN and don't look back. If you truly were his first love or love of his life...he would have pursued you. You are dealing with too much baggage and for what...a time limit? Honey if you settle and wait for this man...you will regret it later.

Push past your emotions and use your head. It doesn't sound like he's divorced, this entire situation is messy. At 24 years old you should be exploring your life and putting in place things of importance. Not running a daycare and playing house, either way you're going to do what you want. I just hope for your sake it's not a mistake :O)

As i sat here and read your thing above... i sighed over and over again and i'm still sighing (just for the record). You say this man is your first love or rather you were his, and you have known him for nine years, i take it that what you are telling me is that you and him have been in a relationship longer than any other you guys have ever had (on and off clearly). He married a girl after sleeping with her once, which clearly does not add up. Silly excuse if i say so myself.

This could be viewed from different point of views based on what you have said above and you will have to evaluate for yourself as i am not in the presence of yourself and your boyfriend to say the situation is clearly so... can only say it's like this or like that.

1. In his mind for some reason he feels ok with being in a relationship with you but he does not see you worthy to be his wife, and that wait until you 27 thing just might be 32 when you get to 27 or he makes up some bullshit *** excuse. He may even fish for a reason to leave you once he sees your 27th birthday approaching

2. He may really love you and is afraid of getting hurt , as only the ones whom you deeply love can deeply hurt you. Waiting until you 27 may just be to give him 3 more years to see if you will mess up, cheat , break his heart, to see if your are willing to wait on him.

3. You taking care of the kids really can be viewed as no big deal because not all women who take good care of kids are fit for marriage even though it is a contributing factor. he may be look for much more than that.

4. It may be convenience, you are willing to deal with my job, deal with me being away and you take care of my kids, big deal. He may not see you as his wife but what the heck you do stuff that ought to be done, but i don't want to get married to you and there is this big BECAUSE that he will never mention to you.

5. He is just straight up playing you , this is what you said. FIRST - 27 IS THE AGE FOR YOU TO GET MARRIED. & SECOND HE NOT MARRYING YOU NOW BECAUSE YOU STAYED OUT A FEW MONTHS AGO. This is what's up... he is fishing for excuses. Clearly? You don't see that???

What do you want? To Take care of a man and his kids who is willing to marry ms got pregnant after one night and not you who he has known and been with so long... And is still having "butterflies" when it come to commitment and the both of you getting married. If her why not you , i don't care what he thinks.

A) Put up with it , trial and error , what if, let me wait and see ???

OR

B) Go out there find a man who is more than willing to love you and marry you and start a family with you babe. Life is too short to be pondering over a dude that clearly is bull shitting.

How convenient for him to have you at home to take care of him & his kids. Wake up, he's not gonna marry you at 27, 47 or 107. Leave now before you are 47 and wondering what could have been.

Real winner ya got there, lady. You WANT to marry a dude with three kids from 2 different chicks? Really? Don't you want your own kids? Then you'll be with a dude that has 4 or 5 kids with 3 different chicks. I think you can do better.

He doesn't want to marry you. And why should he when you're doing everything a wife would do, without marriage? In other words, his stance is, why buy the cow when you're getting the milk for free?

That is BS he is using you.

You sound like a good woman who deserves better. Get out now.

This guy is clearly full of it..the fact of the matter is ..is that is doesn't want to marry you..not now not ever..move on

if I were you I'd quit being the nanny/wife/mistress and leave him to his own devices...he's using you.

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