I think I'm falling out of love w/my husband...?

Geez...they must have cloned my husband...=>

Can't believe your description matchs my husband to a "T"....scary

You sound younger than myself as my 2 kids are grown....I am still w/my husband & regret not leaving him way back when...we are like room-mates....he is very detached from any emotions ~ and honestly we do NOTHING together & I do mean NOTHING...I would say RUN if the running is good...but DO NOT run into the arms of another man...Too soon...the grass ONLY LOOKS greenier on the other side...when u get to that side u discover that "grass" may not be looking too good anymore....RUN BUT DO IT FOR YOU & YOUR CHILDREN NOT TO BE W/ANOTHER MAN...

Good Luck

Well if you are certain that your husband is never going to make you happy, then leave him. It doesn't sound as though you have a loving, caring, mutually respectful relationship. You have tried to make things better and to alert him as to what you are thinking and that you feel as though he isn't giving the marriage his all, and he still hasn't attempted to make things more bearable for you. I don't blame you for feeling the way that you do. I think that if you know that things are over, get a divorce.

But yeah, don't jump into a new relationship immediately. You need some time to heal from the divorce and to think of what you want your life to be like. Keep contact with the new guy, but keep him at a distance for some time.

Your kids are better off having divorced parents than having parents that do not love or care for one another. Good luck to you.

look,

you and your husband had entered the vocation "Marriage" through the sacrament of Matrimony.

and it must not be dissolved by anything.

As Jesus had said, the moment you had been united in the Name of God, you could no longer separate them both because you are now One. If and ever you leave your husband and go with another man, you'll commit a sin "adultery". You could maybe get of the hook with your husband if and ever he hurts you physically and emotionally.

Love never stays the same, you better work for it. Try loving your husband by reminiscing those times when the both of you are very happy being with each other... always think bout the future of your children, having a broken family. Don't always focus on the thought you have that you are falling out of love with your husband.

If it won't work, then try to be honest with your feelings, and you may set your own self free. but i remind you every decision you'll make, you'll face some unexpected consequences.

hope i've help you bout this.

All of the things you are describing with the new guy are more than likely the feelings you had with your husband once upon a time. If you really want your marriage to work you are right all ties with the other man will have to be cut or else your heart will not be into saving your marriage. If your heart is already checked out move on but don't expect a fairytale with the new fella because like they say the grass does always seem greener on the other side.

You have a child with your husband and need to give him the opportunity to work on the marriage and make things right. You really can't do that while you are having a "relationship" of sorts with another man. It isn''t fair to anyone to do this. As much as you may like the other guy, it could be a temporary situation and he could be using this uncertainty of yours to get what he wants. It is a dangerous situation also if you have any idea of working on your marriage. A group of 3 just doesn't work. Ask your husband to go to counseling with you to see if you can get your points across and see if he feels as if the marriage is worth saving. If he doesn't and you can't be happy with him, then think about leaving but NOT so you can go and be with the other guy. Give yourself time to adjust to life without anyone there and make choices that will be right for you and your child. I would encourage you to try to work on your marriage at this time.

You are never going to have that "falling in love" sensation for your entire marriage. All that heart fluttering, thrill seeking sensation is mostly chemical, is not there constantly in a long term relationship.

You married this guy, you make a vow to stay together in good times and bad etc. He is the guy you can count on, the one who makes it "safe" for you, the one you can rely upon and that your kids rely upon. If you devorce him, you have no safety net, no life partner, no dad living at home for your kids, no one who is always on your team. Do you really want to give up your life partner for another chance at that "falling in love" thrill" The thrill will go away with this new guy, the same as it goes away in your marriage, then what are you left with? what are your kids left with?

It takes two to work on a marriage. Take a close look at everything you want from him...then you GIVE that TO him and see what happens!! You just may get some of that thrill back again. Every marriage goes through ups and downs. weather the downs and enjoy the ups. Give the other guy the boot

There is a huge difference between being attracted to another person -- and actually taking steps to be with that other person... Mature people get this. Immature ones do not... I am not trying to sound mean - but if your marriage was so horrible, ask yourself why now that you have this attraction and attention from another man - why now is it you are not sure what to do... what happens when you divorce and say you get with Mr. Wonderful and you grow bored of him... do you keep bouncing from guy to guy because husbands do not show you attention you crave - or do you take a second to figure out what you realistic expectations are (and most of us go into marriage with unrealistic expectations)... figure out first who you are, what you want in life and compare it to your life now.. is it your husbands job to fulfill all your needs, to give you all the attention you crave - or do you crave too much - do you need soap opera drama (we all need a little dram, stimulation) have you tried to change your reactions to your husband instead of just sitting back and complaining and thinking about bolting?

It's normal to imagine a better life with someone else, its normal to find yourself enjoying another attention, its normal to be attracted to others - all normal... But the reality is its also normal to think the grass is greener... uproot your kids life and yours and then find out - it really was not as bad as I thought before or new guy is just as bad...

When you are happy with YOU - then you can be happy with another... until then, over time, you will find fault, reasons, and excuses to justify anything..

Give your husband a chance to correct the problem.

Simply telling him that the problem exists is not enough, it seems.

His life is in a comfortable pattern and changing now is uncomfortable and strange.

Find something to shake him up. Plan a vacation, throw out his favorite chair, never let him bring beer in the house again. Got the idea?

If you have ever been through the death of someone close, lost your job, or something else that is life-changing, then you have the scope of how much you need to shake up your husband.

The man you loved is still there, but he just needs to be awakened again.

I was with another man for 18 yrs that was exactly like your husband. Keyword: WAS

You have to do what is healthy for YOU and you alone..if the other guy makes you happy then leave your husband, file a divorce and start seeing the guy. Which is exactly what I did..with my ex i felt like i could be surrounded by 1,000 ppl and still feel a lone. I have never felt this way with my husband now. I stayed for the kids blah blah blah same old song and dance till i realized this was not healthy for me physically or mentally.

that sounds exactly how i felt a couple years ago. i went ahead and jumped into a relationship with the other guy. but he had changed from what i'd known, it wasn't apparent until i was around him a lot, and it was apparent that i had changed too. i think sometimes we remember how we used to feel about someone. then when we're with them, we realize that not only have they changed, but we have too. if your husband isn't a bad guy or beating you or cheating on you, don't throw your relationship away. try to get some counseling. it may be able to help. if not, at least you gave it a try, right? and then you won't have guilt later. trust me, i think about it a lot. i wonder what would have happened if we'd gotten good counseling because i used to love him sooo much, but after the resentment developed...it was hard to be with him. i've lost my resentment for him now and i wonder what would have been. its worth a try. if he's not driving you away, trust me, you will feel guilty later and it will bother you after a while. not right away, but after a while it will. good luck, hope everything works out good for you!