Masculine gay guys, Have you ever found out that you had actually been acting way more effeminately......?

I'm not particularly masculine, but I'll answer anyway XD

A lot of 'straight acting' guys are a lot more effeminate than they think they are. I've had some of the most flamboyant men I've met look me in the eye and tell me how much they value their masculinity or that they can't stand femmes. You should check video footage of yourself when you're not at it to compare.

Also, a lot of the time people behave completely differently in the bedroom than they do in the outside world. Myself and my boyfriend are also not aversed to making the occasional home-video, and it seems I scream like a banshee say all sorts of bizarre things when I'm in the act, whereas I'm one of the quietest people you'll ever meet in day to day life. You lose your inhibitions when you're enjoying yourself that much, so naturally you'll act differently.

Both are kinda silly. I don't use either. I'm just me. Most times it's more masculine but depending on how I feel, I can be a little more feminine. Not outright girly, but, you know, I have my moments. lol Point is, I don't call it anything specific. It's just me. I even know actual straight guys who have "feminine" moments. I find it comical because one might take it as "gay" but no, it's just human nature. Perfectly normal.

*LOL* Sorry..i probably shouldn't laugh. You know, one thing you should consider is this: when we're having sex with someone, especially someone that we truly love, that's when our barriers are the lowest and we're the most vulnerable...and probably also when act like our TRUE selves. I would suggest to you that rather than becomiong self-conscious about what you perceive to be "effeminate" and trying to change it, you just accept it. After all, your BF apparently loves you the way your are. He probably really digs it when you squeal like an Amish virgin on her wedding night ;o)

Another thing you should consider is that you have some internalized homophobia...god forbid you should appear less manly!! God forbid that you act "gay." Well, you ARE gay, and this means that no matter how butch you think you are, when you go to bed with another man you're doing something extraordinarily feminine, especially if you "receive." Maybe you should work on developing a little gay pride...why would you want to appear straight, which is something that you're definitely not? BTW, some of the bravest men i know are nelly queens who simply can't help being nelly... To be who they are and not give a rat's a** what the rest of the world thinks is an awesome thing. Much braver, i think, than the gay guy who hides his feminine side because he's AFRAID of what the rest of the world will think. Interesting paradox, there: the girly man is braver than the macho dude. Probably something you should think about.

HAHAHAHA! I don't know if you were just trying to be amusing with this question or not, but I think it's funny. And it's actually true that A LOT of so-called "masculine" gays act effeminately in bed. They literally act like a woman. And it's masculine gays who often disparage effeminate gays, yet there are lots of masculine gays who become total b*tches in bed.

How dreadful for you. It's a good thing, of course, that your partner doesn't mind--but, in a way, that almost makes it worse. I don't know how naturally effeminate guys come to terms with what, for me, would be an automatic reason to loathe and despise myself--maybe even kill myself--but I should think it would be like discovering that one was infested with lice: I would purify, purify, purify--wash everything that could be washed; burn everything that couldn't. And I would give up sex entirely. It wouldn't matter to me that my partner liked it or was excited by it; having seen for myself the appalling female THING that I had, on at least one occasion, become, I would resolve never again to let it manifest itself. And for the rest of my life, like Quentin Crisp says, I would periodically, scrupulously examine myself--like someone looking for lice--for the least sign of effeminacy. My condolences, sir.

I should say--because I realize that no one is going to like or understand my answer--that I've also been videotaped doing the wild thing; but my experience on viewing the tape afterwards was, I now think quite fortunately, nothing like yours: I think maybe I laugh too much, and I do my share of grunting and groaning--but, Allah be praised, I don't find myself squealing or caterwauling.

My current BF says that I scream like a girl when he, um, does it. I read your post and just had to laugh. Don't we just like to imagine ourselves as the manliest of men and there we go, throwing our legs as high as they can possibly go! LOL! I'm glad I'm not the only one.

I don't think it was a good idea to tape your "love sessions". Once they get out, they are out there forever. Just saying...

I don't really understand what you want me to answer with..

Sounds like you're more effeminate than you once thought?

Sex reveals many truths.

Why are you getting so hung up on this? I mean, so what? So what if you act differently during sex? It obviously turns your boyfriend on and your obviously turned on during intercourse...you said it yourself. So what's the big deal? To me it sounds like you're ashamed. Is that it? You're ashamed because you act like a sissy? If so, shame on you.

That just means you are really enjoying it, not necessarily that anyone is anything. You let yourself go. That was you being you and him being him. It shouldn't matter how you look/sound/act during sex. Just enjoy it.

Effeminate men don't notice their feminity ...

you noticed yours because you saw yourself from other perspective.