Is it ok that my stepdad acts like a kid at age 35?

Oh noes! Mid-life crisis!

Lots of grown-up men have mid-life crisises at this age, it's normal and it shall pass. Please just stay out of his way (don't go with him anywhere in public!) and try to convince him to buy a really cool convertible.

Wow, was he trying to copy what he saw on tv (like a cop show) when he kicked in the door? That seems a bit ridiculous. That almost sounds like thought he was trying to bring down a drug selling operation or something else that was a huge crime. lol. I have never had a situation like that, but I would talk to your mom about it if you two are close. He probably isn't going to change hearing that from you. He might be like that because he thinks acting like a kid will make him closer to you. If that's why he does it, he probably doesn't act like that around his friends or co-workers.

He is a bully, no matter what level of education he has behind him, there is no excuse for the way he carries on and he needs putting in his place. Stand your ground the next time he starts to throw his weight around with you, bullies thrive on being the one in control, take that control from him and let him know you will not tolerate this anymore.

Your mother should be the one to stand up to him and tell him that he is out of order treating a child of hers this way, you say you can't talk to either of them, well you are going to have to try or this kind of thing will just continue unless you speak out. Maybe they will listen if you warn them that the next time you are assaulted by him you will bring the authorities into it.

Is there anyone at school who you could talk to about this? I think the sooner you tell someone outside the family the better. I really can sympathise because I had all of this crap from my own father and yet my mother stood by and let him get away with it. I involved different teachers from school and then later on a social worker got involved.

In the end I went to live with my grandparents but not before standing up to the pair of them and punching my father in the face because he was coming at me yet again. He never touched me since and now they are both wary of me, I have now cut ties with my father now that I am older. I am not saying to do anything so drastic, it was either him or me and I was sick to death of being a punch bag for that old drunk.

When you say that you plan to have your revenge on them when you are older, you are sounding very angry and I am not surprised in the slightest, being in that kind of environment does make you angry, believe me I know and I still have anger problems to this day on. It isn't healthy for your mental state to be living like this so please do tell someone, there must be someone you know who can help you. Look online for social services in your area if there are no teachers in school who can help, or maybe try your Dr. Not knowing where you are makes it hard to steer you in the right direction!

I wish you all the best x

Wow! Watching TV and movies at 35! Disgraceful!

Acting as your parent and finding out why you've been in a fight? Disgraceful!

Your million word paraghraph is practically unreadable and your opinion kind of sounds suspect to be honest.

The only thing that jars is him 'pushing you to the floor', though from your description this might have been playful? What does your sister think, she witnessed it and is in the same family?

sorry, 2 master's & an officer mean NOTHING...all guys act like kids, but your dad sounds like a narcissistic "brut";; & I don't have a dad like this but someone I'd rather NOT know;; you just happen to see the "real" him...good luck, but the best piece of advice I can give you is to hang around friends a little more, & with "family" things, hang with mom...& btw, all parents are "controlling", they are the only ones out there "protecting you", soometimes even from yourself...again, good luck to you!!

Tell him what you told us.Leave it in a note and tell him he was a jerk to you and you do not respect jerks regardless of their military careers or degrees.This may open up a chance to talk.Tell him to drop the tough guy act you both have feelings and you are tired of him trampling all over your disrespectfully.

Tell him he may beat your @ now, but you'll be picking out his rest home later.

my step dad was just the same.

I eventually had enough and left home when i was 17,

he died a few years back but before he died he apologised for being so hard on us when we were kids.

he found it hard to relate to us and i suppose he only acted like that because he diden't know how to become our friend's as well as our dad.

even though he was hard no us i still miss him bieing around.

in time he may change my dad did!

Like we're gonna read that. Yes, it is OK that your stepdad acts like a kid at age 35. Not many kids aged 35, though, are there?

How old are you know? It sounds like a little of your stepdad is rubbing off on you

When can you move out?

It's better than having a dad or step-dad that beats s*** out of you because he had a bad day.