How to handle this feeling?

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Okay i am a mother already. i have 2 children. i am 25 years old and i have this feeling within my body to get pregnant agian. Financial is it no problem, but only the mental part is for me a issue. The thought to go into this stage of pregnancy, delivery and breastfeeding is keeping me back. I have breastfeed both of my two children for two years. And now i am trying to stop the youngest one with breastfeeding (he is now 27 months old). 

My husband is wanting more children, but we have to wait because of his medical condition is aproved good to make me pregnant agian. Since he is been treated with heavy dangerious medicines for his Hepatitis C. He has stopped 5 months ago with the program and over a month his sperm will be tested, so we can hear hopefully the results are good and not harmfull for me or for the foetus. Otherwise we have to wait agian for 3 till 6 months. 

In the meanwhile, i have regular menstrual periods and i feel my body is ready to carry a child agian inside. I feel recovered from the last (normal) delivery and i feel no connection with him (the child) in regards with breastfeeding. But as you can understand mentally i am not 100%. 

I hope you can understand what i am saying and my question clear is.

Brandy · Accepted Answer

I get it. I understand. Motherhood makes us all a little scatter brained.

I think what you feel is called the "baby bug". It happens to a lot of women at various times. Sometimes right after having a baby, within a few months or even weeks. You just FEEL ready to have another baby.

My son NEVER breast fed. He just didn't want to. I pumped milk for him, but I did feel a sort of distance between us. My second child, my daughter, took to breastfeeding right away and I feel much closer to her. She is 18 months and just weaned. I love both of my children. I love my daughter but I just had to get her off my breast!

I do not have the "baby bug" yet, but I know I will. It is almost like an itch you can't scratch.

Some people like to have their kids close together to get out of the diaper stage faster and get back to sleeping...but others like to space them out so they can "rest" between children.

***While you are waiting for your husband's medical issues I think you two should make a list of all of the pros and cons of having kids close together in age, versus spacing them out. 

Congratz on breastfeeding for so long! Quite an achievement! I hope this helps a little.

Anonymous · Answer

Love is a great feeling. There is nothing to be scared about But love has to be mutual. You have to make sure that he feels the same like you too. The most important thing is you always want to be with him as much as possible and he also want to spend most of his time (his life) with you. So take every opportunity to be with him, feel him out, understand him, and let him feel you out and understands you too. The more likable things you discover about each other the more you will adore each other, the stronger will be your love. Yes, love needs nurturing, from both sides, keep connected and feel it all the time, do all the things you wish to do together. But, in the midst of loving, don't forget the reality, make concrete plans about how in future you are going to live together, are you both compatible in characters, habits, interests and thinking, are you able to earn a living together. The greatest love could crumble if all these basic things are not taken care of. Good luck, be true, be honest and be mutually understanding and caring.

Logan and Ella&#39;s Mommy · Answer

Maybe rephrase a bit and ask a clearer question. It's really not clear at all what you are asking. I'm sorry.

E M M A ~ baby Caleb is here! 10th July 2010 · Answer

Your question is not clear at all.

Lena · Answer

I don't understand what you're saying.

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