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Can I get custody of my ex-girlfriends daughter?
Currently my ex-girlfriend has sole legal custody of her daughter, but her daughter stays full time with the father and his mother. What we know is that in the state of Indiana, the house in which the father is staying isn't fit for children. If child protective services went to the fathers house, they would remove the child from the home. It's not that it isn't clean or anything, they would have to build onto the house or remodel. I now believe that my ex-girlfriend isn't of sound mind enough to take care of her daughter either (it's why we broke up). If I had my way, I would remove that precious little three year old from the nightmare that is her current childhood and raise her myself, which brings me to my question. Is there any way in the state of Indiana that I could possibly get custody of my ex-girlfriends daughter?
Currently my ex-girlfriend has sole legal custody of her daughter, but her daughter stays full time with the father and his mother. What we know is that in the state of Indiana, the house in which the father is staying isn't fit for children. If child protective services went to the fathers house, they would remove the child from the home. It's not that it isn't clean or anything, they would have to build onto the house or remodel. I now believe that my ex-girlfriend isn't of sound mind enough to take care of her daughter either (it's why we broke up). If I had my way, I would remove that precious little three year old from the nightmare that is her current childhood and raise her myself, which brings me to my question. Is there any way in the state of Indiana that I could possibly get custody of my ex-girlfriends daughter?
The fathers house doesn't have a bedroom for the daughter (which is where CPS would get involved in Indiana). There're other reasons the father isn't fit.
To expand: The fathers house doesn't have a bedroom just for the daughter which is why Indiana CPS would get involved. Once the child turns 2 (maybe it's 3 I don't remember) in this state, the child(ren) must have their own bed and bedroom. There are tons of other reasons why the father isn't fit to raise the child (for example, he's mentally slow, and terribly neglectful, and is mentally abusive). Really it's his mom who's raising the daughter (would be the little girls grandmother). Frankly, I could make about 5 phone calls and have EVERYONE arrested without having to make any false claims. But basically you're telling me that even if everyone were in jail, I'd have to go through a lot of red tape in order to try an adopt her... and that's assuming some other foster family wouldn't try to adopt her first?
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- Chloe21Lv 41 decade agoFavorite Answer
No, you are not one of her legal guardians and you are not family. If both her birth mother and father were unfit to parent her she would most likely be given to a family member if there was one available who wanted her and could care for her. If not then she would probably go into the adoption agency or into a foster home. If you wanted to adopt her at that point in time, you probably could but i don't think you realize how long it takes for adoptions to go through. Plus there is always a waiting list and another family would probably adopt her first. Lets pretend you actually have the chance to adopt her, you still need to have multiple case studies, home visits, and a lot of paper work. Plus I assume that the girls parents would still be fighting for her and wouldn't want you to have their daughter. So, no, I do not think that you could ever get custody of your ex's child.
Source(s): My mom is a adoption worker and she used to work in family services. - CarbonDatedLv 71 decade ago
If the daughter had lived with you as her father for 10 years, you would have some weight in getting her provided CPS pulled the child from the father's house because he was unfit. However, at 3 years old the only thing you can do is call CPS and she would be placed in foster care.
Honestly, if it is the home you are concerned with, CPS might actually be able to help him, thereby making the place more safe and secure for the child.
- geneseoLv 45 years ago
yep, l listen you. The authorized process is a multi-billion greenback enterprise that began as an test {in Canada} in Hamilton. It takes away cash and so a lot more from households and it is going straight into the wallet of legal professionals, investigators, and judges, and all of the entourage...I used to be handled like a crook myself, and l discovered the approach stressful to mention the least. I do not consider you must opt for complete custody until you'll be able to certainly turn out that she is alienating your youngsters. That is problematic in so much courtroom methods considering that they hardly ever feel it. You must identify that you've got been actively attempting. Registered letters, courier brought items, retaining your prescence and rights on the faculties, are all aspect of your evidence that you've got been attempting and your visitation is being blocked. You can cross in to the courtroom to your possess, and l recommend you've got your new spouse, watching motherly, by means of your part and visable in courtroom...then with out getting poor approximately the mummy, describe the hindrance to the pass judgement on if in case you have a flip. Believe me $4000 is certainly a drop within the bucket, and also you must be paying help, there's no excuse for no longer helping your daughter financially. Everyone has to , so why are you special? You are one hundred% accountable to your movements, simply because the youngster's mom is one hundred% accountable. So as you've got admitted by means of your possess phrases your aspect on this, might be it's time you quite placed a few attempt into making peace. Show your daughter what a exceptional Dad she has, and do just your very exceptional to help her mom, and supply her kindness as good as help. It is your alternative to difference, that is your possibility, and the prize is the recognize and love out of your daughter...supply her the identical by means of displaying her mom importance and recognize.
- 1 decade ago
You are not related so no, you would not be able to unless the mother was ok with it. Tell her mom, or Aunt etc. or call CPS for the sake of the child!
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
I have no idea, but way to step up and be a gentleman!