My boy is going to ask a girl to marry him. The girl doesn't seem like the right one?

I'm assuming he's your son and you are writing this from a parent's perspective.

It makes me wonder why he wants to marry her so much. Have the two of you talked about it? What qualities does he see in her that would make her a good wife? Our daughter-in-law wasn't at our house much before they were married, but we spent time with them elsewhere.

I'm not sure how you know how she is spending her time away from him, unless he's complaining about how little time he gets to see her. If so, then it should be a red flag that she doesn't want to see him more than she wants to see other people. I feel like if she really loved him, she would want to be with him at the expense of other friendships.

So I'm not sure you're paranoid. In fact it seems like you are rightfully concerned.

Honestly, this may seem painful to watch, but if someone has his mind set on marrying a person who may not be best for them, the most you can do is tell them what you think and be there for them if something happens. He will probably not listen to you and if you stop him from doing what he wants he will just think you are against him or he will feel like you are stopping him because you're being selfish. Love is really blinding, and unfortunately the only way he will learn that she's not right is from experience. You are probably his parent so you feel that instinct to protect him, but he is an adult now and he needs to experiencing life. Just let it be, or tell him you're not sure if she's right for him, although lay it down nicely, because otherwise you may upset him. :)

She was right to say no; she'll probably say no again, to your relief. A girl who's in college cares about her future and is most likely going to both wait a few years to get married and marry a fellow college graduate.

Your son is the only one who knows if she is the one.Honestly from what you are telling us,she sounds like she doesn't want to be part of the family.Just wants him all to herself.I would seriously have a talk with him about this.She sounds very selfish.My sisters partner is the same way.very anti social when she comes around the family.Please talk to him.

Whatever. There's nothing you can do. Your boy has to live his own life. And if he proposes, and she does say yes, there's still nothing you can do. Stay out of it.

Well.... it's their decision, not yours. So butt out. Even if you're right, confrontation will only push him away from you.

just try to talk to your son. but don't become too involved because then that might just push him away