Child Support, Does this seem right?

its disgusting isnt it? well to me it is, disgusting might seem like a strong word.

NO ONE understands what the men who ACTUALLY DO AND ARE WILLING TO take care of their kids go thru. my bf works his **** off just to pay his ex who cheated on HIM money. she used to work as a nurse but he pays her 800$ a month for two kids, and she went part time so she could live off his money. she expects him to pay for more clothes, school activities, etc, when thats what his child support is for! she lives off his checks-NOT the kids. the kids dont get anything out of his money, she goes to salons and has a corvette, and a huge house. while me and him struggle to pay rent on our tiny apt. its ridiculous that the govermnment doesnt make moms show what they are using child support for, the women just get tto use whatever money they get on whatever they want.

my bf says he cant afford a lawyer to prove all this so he keeps paying, we keep strugglin g, even though we also have the kids all the time......

sorry to hear bout ur siuation, hope u can afford a lawyer!

Child support laws may have changed in your state since you filed, I am almost positive that they have, so check into your state laws to see if they are more in your favor now. In GA they now take the mom's salary into account, but in IL they do not.

It may be worth a modification, but tread lightly. If you were ordered to pay 15% 5 years ago based on the amount of time you had the child, you now most likely make more money and the order may not change at all. In which case you will be paying more than when you started this thing.

There are some rare cases where the man has primary custody and still has to pay support to the ex.

Have you used IRS form 8332 to claim your child. Do you know that the IRS's definition of primary custody is who has the child more nights during the year! You may be eligible to claim him.

I am understanding 100% what you are saying. File with your local court for a modification of child support. Be prepared with a timeline of the last year on when you have had the child in your custody. Time had with the child DOES affect child support. The child's best interest and well being is number one but I can understand your frustration on paying out such a large sum when you have the child equally.

If you have the money to spend on lawyers to try and reduce the amount you pay

in child support then you have enough money to take care of your child. If your ex

doesn't spend enough time with her child then sue for full custody and have her pay

child support. Just don't drag your child into the middle of it and keep any fighting

out of ear shot. The bottom line to this is that your child is taken care of.

I would ask her if you could claim them on your income tax return. That may help offset some of your costs, UNLESS you do want full custody. I would try for that! Good luck!