My heart is crushing with indecision. Can you give me advice?

I am in the exact same situation (except that he has no other kids)...and you know..8yrs is a long time but you have to be happy, so that your kids can be happy. I think being in a hostile environment is horrible for everyone, and certainly does not set the example for the kids. I am also working on an exit strategy. Good Luck & God Bless!

Wouldn't there be just some way you all could get together & talk things out? Every one of you put your cards on the table & see if they could be worked thru.What ashame to break up 8 yrs. of being married, but to end it because of the children. They are NOT going to be in your lives forever, & at some point in time it's just going to be you & your husband,These are the yrs, you look forward to enjoying one anoher's company, You said he's going to be crushed, so obviously he DOES love you. Wouldn't it just be worth while making an attempt o talk things over, see IF they can be overcome & go from there. I'd just give that serious consideration before you "crush"someone's heart first,Maybe family counseling just may help too. Just ashame to go this many yrs, then to end it w/o trying to save it...give it some tho't...best to you...:)

Autimom has all of it mind-blowing. yet, you do could have some self admire on your infants. As she stated, he RAPED you, husband or no longer. have you ever no longer seen the thoughts on television??? next time, he could kill you. do you opt for on your infants raised by potential of an animal like that? definite, you have been wronged. From at present forward, inch by potential of inch, make plans to go away him if for some reason you are able to no longer do it NOW. Get an coaching. If he does not choose so you might, LIE, tell him it is going to help w/ the expenditures. Confide the rape in somebody you have faith. he's an abusive word i will't say at here. pass to planned Parenthood. they're great. And definite, you're to blame adequate to take the pill every day, if no longer, i'm sorry yet there is not any wish so you might do something which contain your existence or wish to get removed from him. it is going to take extra self-discipline on your section to get a existence removed from him than merely taking a pill every day! good success.

If your kids are your own, and you don't have any kids together, then you definitely need to do what is for the best for your kids. You had them first before he came along, and they need to be your priority. You are probably not being mean or selfish, you are maybe just getting to an age where you really know what you want.

I think you could really benefit from some marriage counselling. I think you are really torn about what to do because you love your husband and you love your kids and want to see them respected. You should try therapy and sit down discuss your issues with someone who can help you possibly find a way to resolve them. Eight years is along time to just throw away especially if you aren't sure and i don't think you are.

If you are feeling this way chances are he is not oblivious to this either. He may feel all the stress and tension too. You have a lot of children to think about besides yourself. You should seek family and couples counseling before making any decisions. You will want to know that you tried everything to make it work so that if it doesn't work out you will know you tried everything. Ultimately, you have to do what's best for you and your children.

well you do what is best for your kids, and if you are not happy them this rubs on them too. more people should be like you, instead of staying in a relationship which the only victims are the kids.

your husband either needs to fina solution or let it be. you live your life and take of your kids. good luck.

Follow your instinct - it is most likely telling you what you should do.

Doing the right thing for yourself and your children is neither selfish nor mean.

It is being responsible!

if you truly feel as you do then maybe you need to put some space between you and your husband

so that you can find out what you want, also talk to counselor to deal with this there are children

involved..

Why don't you get counseling for this, both of you need to work at this.