Does he have the right to be angry?

He's angry about something else, or he's trying to pick a really big fight so he can leave or he is under some real dangerous stress. You should be talking to him...not us.

With regard to your subject question....people have a right to be angry about whatever they want to be. Whether it is rational or not, is another question.

Either he is petty and controlling.

Or he's had a bad day, or something else is bothering him.

Everyone has the right to be angry. Anger is a prime emotion, usually brought on by fear. But its how we handle that anger thats important. Abusing another person because we feel angry is wrong. Going into another room and closing the door may be his way of taking time-out because he realises he's feeling volatile.

He is using his anger as a way to control you. Only you can give him permission to do that. When you react by saying sorry or getting all needy and scared or intimidated by his anger, he wins, he gets what he wants. My advice is to get a back bone, have self worth and don't let him control you that way and don't give in to his anger. Don't give him the reaction he is seeking. His anger is his problem, not yours.

I could see it if you were routinely doing stupid things where he felt like you were irresponsible and flighty, it IS annoying to live with a person like that. But your stuff sounds innocent and not along those lines.

Sleeping on the couch is for people who have unhealthy communication skills.

You cannot help what makes you upset. Sometimes you may get upset and know what you are upset about is stupid but you are still upset. That being said, he may have the right to be angry but I don't think that he has the right to act childish because he is angry. I think if he has a problem he needs to talk to you about it. As other posters have mentioned it sounds like he needs professional help.

I don't know about how bad your situation is but mine is at the end of the rope... What I have done since last Saturday was I posted a note on our bathroom mirror for myself to remind me when he makes up, sucks up to me I would not forget this time around. That was only a week ago and I added to it yesterday as he yelled at me for a nonsensical reason again yesterday. When he does it now I go a little more into the no return zone where one day he wont be able to reach me anymore.

Of course he apologized and again I forgave him today after the day was almost done. When he left for work all was OK for now. I went into our bathroom a few hours later to find "he had added a note to what I have written." So it has gotten his attention and is a reminder for him to see daily. So for you... Try this? Perhaps?

While I find this a bit humorous ( when I am going through it , it is anything but humorous. ) It is painful, and quite draining. "He told me today it has nothing to do with me, that again he hates his self when he does it to me." I fessed up, "I fessed up" letting him know in my past even when I met him, I was in a deep pain from the guy I was dating at that time." I grew up with no dad, never knew him and maybe just maybe this holds true to why some of us seek comfort through others. "I am not sure how your hubby is, but from mine he knows this is him , he hates when I bring up the D word and I can see he genuinely means it. And his words were if I was to seek out comfort what a mistake that would be for the one I sought out. Would I really go there? I hope not, this was my last cry for help and a warning of who I once was.

If you do not get these issues worked out , you will find it to increase over time. Trust me on this it is very real and very painful and very true.

Try the note thing, stand up for yourself. This is what I am doing and he is honestly not sure how to react to me lately. Sometime it makes his anger more prominent but I expect it to do one of two things.

1. He will get help before it kills our marriage

or

2. We will end the marriage and go our separate ways.

I am ready for either one of the two...

Read up this is true and you need to stop the cycle in its tracks.

Feeling angry is not about "rights". People feel what they feel. There's no good/bad, right/wrong about it.

What they do with those feelings is another matter. The behavior we engage in can be problem-selving, expressive or manipulative, threatening, childish, etc.

There's a marital problem here (at the very least). Start with a counselor:

www.therapistlocator.net

Oh boy you have one of those! I call it the petty syndrome or just need to have drama and problems going on! Your husband is upset about something it could be himself or you but it is seeping out in child like ways.

He sound like he is a lot of energy! A therapist might be in order so he can learn to use his words to express himselappropriatelyly!

Get him a box of Tampax...... and some Midol. You could also recommend a good Gyne if he thinks it might be hormonal.

We're men and we're idiots! We can get mad for no good reason and you get the blame. Sorry but what can I say I'm a idiot and so is your man.

He sounds like he is an emotional abuser.