How do i Overcome my anger and bitterness??

Changing your thought process can be achieved in one of two ways; either get some anger management help (I don't think this is what you really need) or start searching for literature or online articles about controlling your feelings. Look we all go through some sort of anger issues at some point, the test is how you handle them. In your case there are a host of variables that can have an effect. Having gone through a pregnancy changes and affects different levels in your body, so it's possible you have an imbalance, that could be manageable with over the counter or prescription medications. And I am aware that I might be saying something that is unpopular or is not a part of, but hey it's an idea only.

The problem with the way you feel is; it could have consequences reaching farther in your life than expected, if affects you it affects your family. We spend so much time in our lives focusing, fussing and worrying about things that have no real meaning in the scope of our lives, does it make sense to you that taking some of this wasted time and applying it to your real life might be better? I suggest you learn about meditating, and training your brain to get rid of the garbage thinking (you know; garbage in garbage out) and start putting some positive affirmation in your life. Get into understanding that some things will never change and you have no control, but on the other hand; you can control many things to make life better.

I say stop wasting time thinking about the Father, he's simply a donor at this point, and may only be needing someone to bed with. Tell him to prove his love to your son if he wants more, let him know that; if you see him investing time and money in your son it will help convince you that he is serious and could be the first step in renewing your relationship. You also need to know that his other son needs to be a part of his life (you don't), but you also need to respect that fact, dealing with it in an adult way. Don't let adolescent ideology creep in where you need to be grown up. Be the best Mom you can be that is your sole responsibility at this point in time. Once you've mastered the you in you, other concerns will get easier.. Just my opinion:)

Whether or not you take him back you should do something about the anger. It's not healthy for anyone to be carrying around all that pent up frustrations. You are not wrong for feeling the way you feel because he has caused you a great deal of pain and it hurts to be betrayed in this way. Not to mention raising a child by yourself. Im sure this is not what you've envisioned your life to be.

BUT, here is the part you don't want to hear. This is your reality. You have a son that you have to raise and yes, on your own. Being a parent means you have to be selfless and make sacrifices. Do it for him and love him because you want him to have a good life and a good future.

Now as for your son's father, tell him that you have to work on your anger before you can be with him and have a healthy relationship. If he sticks around and honors your request then maybe he's worthy to gain your trust again. If not then move on with your son.

The anger you feel is not anger directed at him but at yourself for getting into this F mess. He and his other son mean nothing except to confirm he is an @hole. So back to you. you did something really stupid and you are not really doing anything about it Make it clear the father has rights to son visits. you want absolutely nothing else except some help (child support). Then get yourself some help. You are probably smart or at least smarter now. Forget family life , keep your legs crossed no matter what tand finish school, take father to court for money to help and make sure the court rules he pays your attorney and court fees. Once you take care of yourself your anger at yourself with dissappear. something tells me you can do this. good luck.

1st-You have to let go of the anger and rage not only for you but for your son. If him "popping" in and out is what's giving you the rage then STOP the visits until you are in a good place.

2nd- Take him to court and get child support and visitation set up. This will ease your burden of being the sole provider and your anger of his "pop" in and out visits.

3rd- Don't even think of taking him back UNTIL (if at all) your anger is in check. You will not be doing what's best for your son if you do. Plus it sounds like with the "new" baby he is looking for someone to help him with all his obligations. No doubt the latter mommy is getting child support which he won't be able to pay and YOU who allows him to "pop" in and out seems like a good candidate to support him and the new baby.

I wish you luck and do what you feel is in your heart. I believe you know what you should do it's just easier said than done.

its natural to feel this especially since hes never around! How can you trust someone that one day there with you and the next your not to sure! He wants to live the good life with no problems worries or bills! You have to just let go of the past if there some chance you may want to be a family. Its extremely hard but When things are meant to be they will be. Also he has to show you that hes not going to just get up and leave one day.

First make sure that you start the process for child support.

Second make a point to tell him that your son needs a consistent father and that if he is going to bounce in his life to not bother. He is setting a horrific example for your son by being a once in awhile play date. You want your son to grow up to be a man of moral character. I would not waste one more tear, thought or emotion on this jerk. HE has proved himself to be unreliable.

Men like this play I would go to church get involved with some moral stable men maybe singles group met some moral girls with good head on thier shoulders and believe God for a man who can provide and not be a playa style between to kids move on he is bad news not God's best our step father is a dream compared to real dad and he had no kids and omg a natural,awesome dad!

I tried unsuccessfully on my own to rid of my anger and bitterness as well for some time. I finally went through anger management and life has never looked better. I really do suggest it if you want to better your attitude and persevere in this life.

Let the anger and bitterness go. It's not healthy for you or your child. Pray for the anger and bitterness to go away. Trust me you would be a much happier person.

I personally don't think there is ANYTHING wrong with your anger. Be pissed.

BUT choose to channel that anger someplace. I think you just aren't channeling it somewhere and trying to supress it -- and that is making it worse.

Exercise, create art, ***** in a journal --- and get it out of your system. Give yourself a month of just plain being pissed --- and indulge yourself in this stuff --- allow yoruself to be angry and I bet you will get it out of your system.

And don't listen to what anyone who criticizes you for ahving feelings thinks you SHOULD feel or do.